Life in the UK as a first-time mum is honestly one of the hardest things I've ever done.
No mum, no sisters, no aunties, no family dropping by to help.
It's just me and my husband, and he still has to go to work every day.
Some days are overwhelming.
God, please give me strength. I don't want to lose myself in the process. 🤍
"I’m a first-time mom, and my baby is just 4 weeks old. Since giving birth, I’ve been feeding her whenever she cries because I usually assume she’s hungry.
But someone recently told me that a baby crying doesn’t always mean they’re hungry. They said sometimes babies cry because they want comfort, to be cuddled, or simply to be close to their mom.
Now I’m confused and don’t know if I’ve been doing the right thing.
I’m exclusively breastfeeding her, so I’d really love to hear from experienced mamas and health professionals.
How many times should a 4-week-old baby be fed in a day? Should I feed her every time she cries, or should I wait for specific hunger cues?
I’d really appreciate your advice. Thank you".
The temp was nearly 32°c today across most parts of the UK 🇬🇧.
But guess what, no matter how hot it gets, Bro you can't just jump into the bathroom and put on the Cold Shower on yourself.
You can't! 😀
Make a budget for black tax and don’t exceed it.
Let me tell you a quick story.
Earlier this year, when I got sued and everything hit the internet, at home, I overheard a cousin laughing and saying “the money she refused to give me, she’ll now spend it on this lawsuit.”
This was someone who had asked me for money just about a week earlier, and I genuinely couldn’t afford it at the time. I cried A LOT the day he said that. What hurt me wasn’t just the comment even, it was realizing that my years of generosity didn’t matter after the one time I said no.
It taught me something important:
support your family, yes but never ever overstretch yourself.
Set a clear budget for black tax.
Stick to it and once it’s exhausted, let it be.
You can’t pour from an empty cup.
Make a budget for black tax and don’t exceed it.
Let me tell you a quick story.
Earlier this year, when I got sued and everything hit the internet, at home, I overheard a cousin laughing and saying “the money she refused to give me, she’ll now spend it on this lawsuit.”
This was someone who had asked me for money just about a week earlier, and I genuinely couldn’t afford it at the time. I cried A LOT the day he said that. What hurt me wasn’t just the comment even, it was realizing that my years of generosity didn’t matter after the one time I said no.
It taught me something important:
support your family, yes but never ever overstretch yourself.
Set a clear budget for black tax.
Stick to it and once it’s exhausted, let it be.
You can’t pour from an empty cup.
Dear Rt. Hon Sir @Keir_Starmer, KC and Prime Minister of the United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland,
I bring you greetings. This message would not be complete, if popular opposition politicians are not tagged especially, the Rt Hon. @KemiBadenoch MP and Leader of His Majesty Opposition, the Rt. Hon @Nigel_Farage, Anti Migrant Propagandist.
It is a moral responsibility on political players in our political ecosystem to be truthful to the electorates. As a matter of fact, it should be criminal to misinform the electorates or push propaganda that could be termed as misinformation.
I also emplore migrants to have an open and honest conversation with some of their folks because there is a lot of misinformation going around.
I had a very interesting conversation with a white British gentleman yesterday and at first he thought I was a foreigner which I admit to be, but at the moment I am a British citizen.
He thought that foreigners just get to the UK easily and take everything and are given priority than British people. He thinks and holds strongly that foreigners take British jobs.
I smiled 😊 because I was about to be mischievous. We continue our conversation.
In the course of the conversation, I asked him his age and he told me which is roughly around my age. I asked his qualifications and he said he didn't have a University education.
I went further to tell him that we are almost the same age and based on his initial assertion that foreigners take British jobs, it will be right for him to say I may have taken his job since we are almost within the same age bracket.
He didn't say anything.
I asked if he thinks he can take my job back because it is his job that I initially took and nothing wrong for him to take it back? He laughed.
I said firstly, he needs to have a law degree, Master in law, two postgraduate legal training, qualify in two or more jurisdictions and at least 12 years work experience as well as other legal and regulatory requirements as well as be able to manage more than 100 caseloads
He said that's like forever. I said, that it is a part of my CV to keep my current job which he agrees would have been his job.
I hope we understand the misinformation from our interactions?
This led me to the reason why I decided to address the PM et al.
It will cost an average MSc student the following to get to the UK :
1. Tuition fees = app £12000 plus
2. Immigrant Health Surcharge(IHS)= £1216
3. Application fee= £550
4. Tax in Accommodation
5. Tax in the airline ticket
Upon Arrival in the UK
1. Monthly Tax and NI Contributions
2. Other tax not elsewhere classified
Upon Successful completion of the Course
1. Application £890
2. IHS = £2070
3. NI Contribution and Tax
Five Year Skilled Worker Visa
1. Application fee = £590 to £900
2. IHS = £0 to £5175
These are the basics. I have stayed almost 24 years in the UK and have used the NHS not more than 4 times.
How is legal migrants a leach on the system or taking British jobs?
This sort of propaganda is what we read from a particular country with a drug man at the helm of affairs, not the UK or from Orange man across the Atlantic.
Let's be British because our politics should be fact based.
Thank you 😊
My children will NEVER pray:
“Every power from my father’s house…”
“Every power from my mother’s house…”
Because I am the power of my father’s house!
I confronted those altars.
I silenced those voices.
I broke those patterns.
I ended those cycles.
The battles that swallowed others in my bloodline met their end with me.
I’m the BREAKER. The one God raised to rewrite my family’s story.
My children will inherit peace, not warfare.
They will walk on the roads I cleared.
They will drink from wells I dug.
The curse stopped here.
The blessing begins with me.