in order to become a better person, you must first realize how horrible you really are. not in the dramatic sense, but in the quiet ways you sabotage yourself, repeat unhealthy patterns, hurt people who care about you, or tolerate what wounds you. you cannot grow if you keep pretending you’re innocent in the story you’ve created.
make sure you respect your partner more than you love them because you can cause a lot of damage to them while still loving them. when you respect them you'll think about them before you make any move & you'll think about the impact it will have on them