dudes love to be like "kill your local rapist" because they know they're never going to be in the position to do that, or even be expected to. actually addressing sexual + gendered violence requires a hundred small actions every day, not a performative promise of future violence
when butches get a little desperate for you… looking at you with half-lidded eyes and eyebrows scrunching together… torn between chivalry and giving into their urges…