Three years ago, I was stuck
Or I would say I felt stuck
I had finished service and it seemed like nothing was moving in my life
No Job
No direction on what was next
To crown it all, I was just served the hottest breakfast ever and it seemed like my world would end
I had to go back helping my parents in the business they were doing
I was doing this job for my parents in the university and to still came back to that same spot after school?
It’s like I was moving in circles
I tried to do a post graduate program, that one just parked one side
Someone would show interest in marriage and when it came the time to take concrete decisions, they would slip off
I remember praying against spritual husband one time
Not that I thought I had one, but I just wanted to cover my bases
Just in case
I would come out and preach and do programs and I would go back in and cry
To worsen it, all my peers that we had grown up together in church were getting settled one after the other
I was doing chief bridesmaid and bridal train again and again
Even though I was doing it with Joy, I kept getting the pity stares from people
And I was getting the looks, the concerned looks from church people
Being in a ministry that was public I was always before the eyes of people and the scrutiny was intense
I remember one time , it was almost becoming difficult to go to church because I was tired of the pity looks
“Mrs fine social media woman, what’s up with you?
Everybody has gone ahead and you’re still here?”
I would serve my God diligently
I wasn’t sure what was next
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The past six months of my life have seemed like 6 years
Because A LOT has happened
New marriage
New Job
New House
New country
New this
New that
When it was my time came, God compressed everything inside 6 months
Everything has been happening with lightening speed and precision my head still reels when I analyze it
God has said it is your time now and it’s been back to back to back to back miracles and provisions and progress
I can’t recognize the woman I am
Dear child of God
I bring to you today a promise of RESTORATION
That all the years that it seems the cankerworms have eaten, God will restore
I know what it feels like to feel stuck
I know the pain very well
I see your messages in my inbox and I may not be able to reply you one by on
But if you can see this,
Please hold on to God
Don’t stop serving Him
Your TIME will come
The Zeal of the Lord will make it happen
If He did it for me, He will do your own too
#womanengraced
@d_ocheido Another thing again is to know how God speaks to you on general things not just marriage. If you already have this form of communication with God, when it's time to choose for marriage it won't be difficult.
@TheSummerUKnow Dear Deborah A.,
🔺Congratulations, your visa has been approved.
🔺Congratulations, you’ve been awarded the fully-funded scholarship.
🔺Congratulations, you’ve won the lottery.
🔺Congratulations, you got the job.
I remember when I passed out of NYSC, my friend and I had a saying, "I'm excited about the future... are you?" We said this so much to each other it became hilarious.
Were we really excited about the future? Me, not so much because I was going back home to Lagos to job hunt, she already passed a bank test and was starting her job immediately.
I was happy for her and wished her all the best. My job hunting started in full force but as I've told the story many times, it was quite a tough time for me. Gradually all my friends got steady jobs and I was left, amongst my close friends, the jobless one.
As I prayed and meditated on open heavens one of those days when it felt like the world hated me and I would never succeed here in Nigeria, the bible verse was Ecclesiastes 9:11. It gave me so much hope not because I was envious of my friends but because I never wanted to be the odd one out of them. I never wanted to be looked on with pity.
Look at my friends and I today, everyone doing well in their own space, none left behind, just that our timing isn't the same.
I know you're feeling like the odd one out, maybe among your family, friends, or colleagues but understand this, "...The race is not to the swift or the battle to the strong, nor does food come to the wise or wealth to the brilliant or favour to the learned, but time and chance happen to them all."
Keep striving for where you want to be, you'll arrive JUST IN TIME.
I love you. ❤️😊
I love this outlook of everything will be fine and if it’s not fine, we will work through it. There’s a research that backs it that many of the things people are afraid of end up not happening and when it happens, they manage it somehow. So where am I going? Be optimistic.
Before now I have imagined scenes where I’m in a session with @ProductDive and my laptop goes off due to its battery issues but that can be left in my imagination with your help.
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