second chances are for people who have earned them, who put in the work continuously and consistently to change and to grow, and who understand the magnitude of their mistake. they're not for people you love who keep mistreating you that you don't want to be without.
The best relationship is one that is balanced. There aren’t specific gender roles. Each person plays their part and shares the same parts. You both cook, you both clean, you both pay for things, you both provide stability and security for each other. It never gets one sided.