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[DadOps @daddaops]

@booritney @WatsonLadd You are right. The explanation is that like other million things none of our rules and norms are optimally designed. In fact, they aren't designed at all - they evolved. And similar to other evolutionary outcomes, you will find really weird and non-optimal structures!

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@PeacefulFathers Are you for or against injecting syringes against the toddler's wish?

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My toddler sometimes refuses to sit on his car seat. But it doesn't become this. Why? Because I don't force him. I take him out, give him some time, and then we try again in a bit. It's okay. I think he can sense when we really need to be going and when it's a soft suggestion so it hasn't been a problem.

[Richie Rich @gofishh77]

I couldn’t imagine what it must be like to have a child that acts like this. Is this gentle parenting or does he have some major issues?!

[DadOps @daddaops]

I am using claude to refine prompts in a LLM software I am writing. This is a recursive self-improvement with human in the loop. Once the human is gone - take off time.

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@avidseries LMAO, that was hard to watch cringefest! I am impressed they didn't burst out laughing.

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2.5-year-old had a meltdown because I apparently poured his honey wrong.

I don’t know what I did, but I regret it deeply.

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@changeiz1 @paulg About you or about your misdeeds ?

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@billybrizzle420 Man 60 isn't that old. Why is he talking like he gonna die in next few years?

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@NoahRevoy Oh, don't you know, if you don't nip it in the bud, you will have a 20 year old who will run around the house naked!

[DadOps @daddaops]

One consistent theme of the strict-parenting group is the perpetual fear of their children growing up to be disobedient and misbehaving unless such behaviors are aggressively nipped in the bud during early years. Children are learning and going to learn a million things. You can teach them gently. In fact they will learn mostly on their own, watching others - only if they aren't perpetually paralysed with fear of messing up.

[Hannah Manderino @HManderino]

Obedience to appropriate authority is not arbitrary. If a parent tells a child to wear a coat and he refuses, that is objectively bad because God tells children to obey their parents. So yes, they may outgrow a certain type of behavior but it will only manifest in different form.

[DadOps @daddaops]

@avidseries @cremieuxrecueil Is it assuming peer nations also get waymo or only US getting waymo?

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@thdxr VS code SSH terminal will automatically handle everything for you

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@PeacefulFathers It's all the same dude.

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@EmbracingTara Disagree. People are should have as much children as they can reasonably provide food, clothing, housing and education. The rest aren't that important - at least not important enough to factor into having or not having children.

[DadOps @daddaops]

The thing is they will very likely outgrow the "bad" behaviour. Most of the seemingly bad behaviour are based on our arbitrary definition of bad anyway. There was a time my current 2.5 yo would refuse to wear a jacket - even in the middle of winter. We had to wrap him in blankets to transport him around. That didn't last for 10 years - it lasted 10 days.

[Hannah Manderino @HManderino]

I think one of the greatest motivations for consistently training and disciplining one’s toddlers is to imagine what it would look like to see them exhibiting the same bad behavior in 10 years.

Or 20.

[DadOps @daddaops]

2.5 yo has been quite irritable as he is recovering from illness. Woke up from nap and started crying for unspecified reason. Wouldn't tell why and wouldn't calm down. After 20 different activities were offered and rejected, we both are now calmly watching clothes get washed. #gentleparenting

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@ZacMabry Not sure if it is directed at the children or at the parents!

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@kb_french @arfunkel7777 @beyondwaiting Sure. But to a toddler a slap in the butt has the connotation of "my dad hurt me" - which hurts them both physically and emotionally. Not "Ouch it hurt - I shouldn't do this next time" like when they bumped their head on the table.

[DadOps @daddaops]

Gentle parenting incident from yesterday. 2.5 yo absolutely refused to get back to the car from the park. It was getting late. We gave him some time, because, quite honestly, "it's time to go back home" was quite arbitrary - it was us who was tired not him. He ran around, played soccer and then after about 15-20 minutes of activities, was ready to get back home. No tears shed.