If you're a politician posting and responses just say "fuck off", this is why:
You are pushing ill-thought, over-reaching, abusive policies that pretend to care, but show that you have little education, experience, or empathy regarding the supposed problem.
Fuck off.
@altumuku Because it reminds you of your place. That feeling of *something* watching you. Their eyes touching every inch of skin. Hot breath on your neck. You can practically feel their teeth in your flesh. A hungry growl in your ear as they prepare to carve you up.
*My Prey .... Mine*
A part of aftercare is debriefing after a scene.
It’s connection. Talk about what worked, what didn’t, what surprised you, and what you loved.
Communication is the real power exchange.
A good debrief is calm, honest, and JUDGEMENT FREE.
Debriefing is about evolving together.
@Jiankui_He This undermines my assumptions on every “x declined to comment” I’ve ever read
How many of those were actually “we didn’t like their rebuttal comment and are refusing to print it”
That’s how I’m going to read that going forward
Part of being a domme is knowing when to stop!
Sub drops aren't as common in online domination, but that doesn't mean they don't happen. A sub drop is when a sub experiences an emotional and physical crash after intensive power exchanges, leading to sudden feelings of depression, anxiety, sadness, and exhaustion.
One of the most difficult parts of doing this online is that I cannot be there to assess the body language and expressions of my subs! This means that, during prolonged and intense play, sub drops can and DO happen. And when they do, it’s my responsibility to pause, step back, and encourage the sub to take care of themselves - because I can’t wrap them in a warm blanket or make them a comforting drink afterward.
Unfortunately, I see far too many so-called “dommes” online engaging in unsafe practices that would NEVER be acceptable in-person. They encourage sub drops, push past clearly stated boundaries, or crank up intensity purely for a higher payout. They focus on short-term profit instead of long-term trust and the well-being of the subs relying on them.
This is why it’s so important for dommes to understand safe practices and the emotional realities of power exchange. Yes, most of us are dealing with full-grown men who should be able to say no, communicate clearly, and uphold their own boundaries. But power dynamics affect people differently, and even confident adults become more vulnerable when they submit. As dommes, we hold the responsibility to recognize that vulnerability, honor it, and create a space that is both thrilling AND safe!
If you think access to food has to be earned, you’re not a good person
If you think access to housing has to be earned, you’re not a good person
If you think access to healthcare has to be earned, you’re not a good person
Often one of the most supportive things someone can do for a CPTSD survivor is patiently sit w/ them as they take their time finding their words through the haze of dissociation & internal "noise," staying open & gently attentive, not pressuring the conversation forward.
@DopaminePlsMe Delayed processing & shock make it really hard to respond *appropriately* when boundaries are crossed. I shut down to avoid inflicting damage. By the time I have processed what happened & come up w/an appropriate response, the appropriate response time frame has expired.
@drjenwolkin People tend to get better at masking and compensating for their symptoms as they age so it looks like we are getting better but we are absolutely not! If anything I am doing WORSE from trying to handle adult responsibilities!
I just watched the @Oprah special on kids going No Contact with their parents and, as someone who’s been no contact with their parents for years, I want to say one thing.
To the whole “we were taught to love our parents no matter what and kids these days just don’t do that” argument…
We didn’t choose to be born. You chose to be a parent. Stop trying to place the blame on us because you refuse to look yourself in the mirror.
Also, stop calling it a trend. It’s not. It’s a painful choice to walk away from someone you thought was your hero only to realize they’re a shitty person you’re better without