I remember when I ended my first long term relationship, it lasted for four years. We were preparing for marriage but deep down, I was scared. I know with how the relationship was going, marriage will be hell.
I needed a way out but my heart was not ready, with each passing day, I got more anxious. I was scared for my future and I knew I was condemning myself to a life of misery.
Then one day, we had an issue and he said it was over, he was done. I felt like someone stabbed me with a blade and was continuously twisting it. I begged, I cried but nothing worked. I was not crying because I didn’t want to leave, I was mourning a future I created in my head that will never come to pass.
Three weeks later, he came back. I was still nursing my wounds, still crying occasionally but I told him no. He was shocked, knowing me I would have jumped back (that was not the first time) but this time, I have decided to cry out the pain, empty my heart and moved on.
That decision changed my life.
when she could’ve just done it quietly, she decided to be loud, insensitive and stup!d.
every day, i see more reasons why he didn’t come out to say anything.
The trigger has been removed.
The person causing the stress has left their lives. This reduces cortisol and it’s easier for her to stop stress eating amongst other things.
You people underestimate the effect a ‘bad’ partner can have on a person.
This World Cup proves that Africans will not tolerate those who abuse our own. If a different country beats and kills South Africans in their streets, Africa will show the same opprobrium towards that country. You’re dumb if you think there’s anything special about you to attract hate for no reason. You’re being called out and shamed by the world for beating and killing people simply for being more enterprising than your locals, you moron!!
In a relationship?
Falling out of love is normal.
Getting tired of the relationship at some point is completely normal.
Only the intentional & wise lovers come out alive.
The truth is that, not many understand that relationships have phases. It takes intentional people to go through all the phases & choose to stand firm.
There are 3 main phases:
There’s the infatuation phase (the sweetest), the reality phase (the hardest), & the adjustment phase (where you’ve made peace with all their flaws).
Only a few make it through the second phase, and the few who get to the adjustment phase have to keep adjusting & compromising till they leave this earth.
Remember, the partner you met 6 years ago will not stay the same 6 years later.
Learning & compromising are constants.
That’s the only way.