my father is a municipal judge. In 2013 NM made gay marriage legal. In protest, every judge in his county stopped performing ALL marriages. Except my dad, who bought a rainbow bow tie and had me rewrite his vows to be gender-neutral. Here he 9 months later at his 80th ceremony.
Three days ago, a 15-yr old boy had an anxiety attack in the school bathroom to hide from his bullies and struggling grades.
His “guidance” counselor pulled him into a room alone and told him to power thru and stop saying he was suicidal for attention even tho he was crying so hard the capillaries in his face were broken. Fun fact: the boy has never been in trouble nor has said this before.
The boy is now in the hospital an hour away from his family due to a real attempt to leave this world.
Because the school would not listen all year nor accommodate his mother’s requests for help and a 504 plan, he felt he had no hope and could not face another day.
The boy is my son. And I’m so angry at the GC in his school I’m frozen. They’re now complying to help with classes and gave him a new counselor.
These new accommodations are not enough. Our story isn’t rare. Schools need to wake up and make some real changes.
Real life story time!
I briefly dated someone who saw flowers as a complete waste of his money. And refused to buy them. Like ever. REFUSED. Even on “special occasions”.
And it was exhausting trying to explain why I liked flowers and why it made me feel special for my significant other to get them for me.
Eventually I got tired of asking for that display of romance. And I left. I walked away and didn’t wait for him to break up with me. Sometimes, in the quest for better, you have to be the one to walk away.
But that’s not the point of this post.
The point is: that one hated the idea, and the right one was honored by the idea.
I’m now married to the man who has a whole BUDGET JUST FOR FLOWERS for me set aside and he carefully chooses ones he believes I will like. A whole budget. Please catch what I’m saying.
Maybe it’s not flowers. Maybe it’s quality time. Maybe it’s something else. The point is the one who WANTS TO, will.
Basically…
One man’s “why do you need all that from me” is another man’s “is that all you need from me?”
Remember that.
And stop settling my good sis.
The things you would like to have only scare those who have intentions of doing the bare minimum to skate by.
That means there’s a heart out there willing to put in the work
Carry on as you were. 💖☺️
Save this for later when you need the reminder.