i am begging some of you to become ok with hearing not-so-great-things about yourself. especially if it is coming from a loved one that historically respects your agency. chances are you unknowingly crossed a boundary & someone is trying to tell you in a respectful way.
If someone asks me now what one of the worst phases of my skincare journey was, it’s this: taking every piece of advice I saw on social media. I was guilty of it I’ve had acne since my teens, and I tried it all: lemon scrubs, random steroid creams, every viral ‘fix’ that promised clear skin overnight. It only made things worse.
And the worst part? I started believing my skin was just ‘broken.’ Like no product could ever work on me. Like this was my forever. At that time, proper information about skin wasn’t easy to find no skin influencers breaking things down the way they do now, no easy access to estheticians who could tell me what was actually going on. I had no idea skin type mattered, or that a proper skin analysis should come before anything else I put on my face. But how was I supposed to know that? We worked with what was in front of us, even when it was wrong. That’s not something to be ashamed of it’s just where the journey started. That experience is part of what led me to become an esthetician. My main goal now is to help people understand their skin and learn to love it. #AcneAwarenessMonth”
To all the women under that academic thread.
One sentence for you all- Loke Loke Lola Kunfayakun.
You all will not fall or stumble and it will keep getting better for you.
I’m super duper inspired ❤️
I graduated from #Harvard with a PhD in May. It still feels like a dream. I’m grateful to the shy little girl who dared to dream, who inspired me to go farther than I ever saw. I’ll never be able to shake off the weight of this moment. God truly is the Sustainer of our #dreams.
You can mock Nigerian girls all you want for lacking communication skills, but the truth is that Nigerian society is generally hostile to honest conversation.
The more Nigerians you deal with, the more you notice a pattern: people avoid saying things directly. They deflect, suppress, and sidestep difficult discussions until, seemingly out of nowhere, there's an emotional outburst.
Many of our siblings, parents, lecturers, bosses, and peers exhibit this trait to varying degrees: avoid, deflect, avoid—then suddenly, get mad.
As a young Nigerian, do not be envious and jealous of a Contemporary who is Intelligent and Capable, even if u guys are "Career Competitors" We have such a deficit of needed brain Power in the Work of building our Society, every competent person needs to be encouraged
“I’ve never wanted to be put on a pedestal because it worries me that if you’re put up so high, the only other thing you can do is fall.” ~ Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie