It's a learned behaviour Candace which starts from the parents. If the parents live as victims, the children will too unless an intervention happens (This happened to me). M. Scott Peck wrote powerfully about this in his acclaimed work "The Road Less Travelled"...READ BELOW:
"The difficulty we have in accepting responsibility for our behaviour lies in the desire to avoid the pain of the consequences of that behaviour.
One of the roots of this is some desire to partially or totally escape the pain of freedom and therefore, some failure, partially or total, to accept responsibility for their problems and their lives.
Sooner of later if they are to be healed, they must learn that the entirety of their adult life is a series of personal choices and decisions.
If they accept this totally, then they become free people. To the extent that they do not accept this they will forever feel themselves as victims.
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Eckhart Tolle also writes about this in "Stillness Speaks"...
"Almost every ego contains at least an element of what we might call “victim identity.”
Some people have such a strong victim image of themselves that it becomes the central core of their ego.
Resentment and grievances form an essential part of their sense of self.
Even if your grievances are completely “justified,” you have constructed an identity for yourself that is much like a prison whose bars are made of thought forms. Complaining and reactivity are favourite mind patterns through which the ego strengthens itself.
For many people, a large part of their mental-emotional activity consists of complaining and reacting against this or that.
By doing this, you make others or a situation “wrong” and yourself “right.”
Through being “right,” you feel superior, and through feeling superior, you strengthen your sense of self. In reality, of course, you are only strengthening the illusion of ego.
The egoic sense of self needs conflict because its sense of a separate identity gets strengthened in fighting against this or that, and in demonstrating that this is “me” and that is not “me."
Not infrequently, tribes, nations, and religions derive a strengthened sense of collective identity from having enemies. And I would add finally that only true healing can be found in and through a relationship with God and His son🙏
As I sat in the back of the briefing room @WhiteHouse and was not called on by @PressSec Karine Jean-Pierre, I learned something that fundamentally changed my life, even as they were writing me warning letters, and other reporters were using the opportunity to slander me on television and their news outlets.
You see, we go through life thinking that we are better than others, cannot make the same mistakes they have made, and are superior in thinking and can handle our emotions better. We tell people we have a Ph.D. or are a lawyer, a professor, or a genius. We open an account on Twitter or LinkedIn and add all of our intimidating qualifications, thinking that because of all that, people would hire us, follow us, and automatically like or respect us or even engage with our content. However, when we tweet, we are surprised when they don't.
In life, we take pictures with the famous, the powerful, and the people on television, and we share them on social media. In the White House, we call on reporters we believe work for better news outlets, crack jokes with them, remember their birthdays, and even when they don't raise their hand, we will call on them; we act friendly and respectful. To others, we ignore them, don't greet them, and don't call on them because we believe they are not as great as others.
Or we receive questions all the time, and we become entitled; we now believe that we are better than those who are not called on, we attack them when they try to get their questions in, we remind them that our publication has more readers than theirs, we have become entitled.
We do all these things only to realize we are not connecting with the people. When we tweet, they do not respond; when we run for election, they pick someone else, someone we believe is inferior to us. The people see the level of entitlement, arrogance, the disrespect, and turn their backs on us.
They show you that most people do not care how much you know until they know how much you care. They judge you by how you treat that little guy in the briefing room, not by how you favor the already powerful ones. They connect with your content when you show them respect, when you are open-minded, and when they can see that you also want to learn from them through their comments and are not Mr. Know it All.
That new knowledge has transformed me. When I tweet, I reach millions of people, and thousands of people comment because the people see that open mind, that willingness to learn and connect with them, that deep desire to drive meaningful conversations.
You know, I have lived long enough and got white hair by the way, to know that whether here in Washington DC, where I am writing this, or over there, wherever you're reading it, the truth remains that to become a better human being and connect with the people, you have to drop your false mask of superiority.
Imagine being @JoeBiden. Your son makes millions of dollars from foreign entities but does not pay taxes because that would mean disclosing that he is engaged in foreign lobbying. With the millions of dollars and no serious job, he becomes a drug addict and illegally obtains a gun. All he tells them is that he is the son of the US Vice President, and he claims that part of the money will go to the "Big Guy." He promises them access to his dad and top US officials. They hire him without any qualifications and pay him millions of dollars.
Eventually, the information comes out, and the Justice Department has to investigate. The investigation drags on for five years, and eventually, they strike a deal with him to plead guilty to two misdemeanors of tax evasion so that the government would not prosecute him for illegally possessing a gun as a drug addict, a serious crime that has sent tens of thousands of Americans to prison for years.
Imagine being the same father who, as a senator, drafted a draconian anti-drug law that sent tens of thousands of black people and others to prison, confiscated all their belongings, and gave a big speech boasting that the drug addicts should all be taken off the streets. Now that your son is one of them, when you're asked about his case, you say you're proud of him and he has done nothing wrong.
Imagine journalists and commentators like @joenbc justifying it on television, singing your praises when their own child would have been in prison long ago for the same crimes. Imagine the people who believed in the rule of law watching the two-tiered justice system so brazenly displayed.
America is in crisis. May God help us all!
To mandate mRNA vaccines, the public was deceived by scientific and political "authorities" who falsely claimed that the vaccines would stop infection, block transmission, and effectively end the spread of COVID-19. This led to a decline in public trust in vaccines, as dissenting voices were suppressed through censorship, and established expectations were consistently shifted.
Global roundtable discussions should have been held and broadcasted, allowing renowned doctors like Dr. Anthony Fauci, Dr. Peter Hotez, Dr. Robert Malone, and Dr. Peter McCullough to debate the safety and efficacy of COVID-19 vaccines for the world to hear.
Open dialogue and debate were crucial for scientific progress on various issues, such as lockdowns, treatment protocols, and school closures. Unfortunately, dissenting doctors' voices were silenced on social media, banned from television, and subjected to media ridicule.
Science thrives when established theories are critically analyzed and challenged, while authoritarianism and top-down control rely on suppressing scientific debate. The best way for the "authorities" to rebuild public trust is to embrace an open dialogue with dissenting perspectives.
However, if the ultimate goal is to establish authoritarianism and top-down control, then scientific and political "authorities" should continue on their current path without lamenting the loss of public trust.
@JoeRogan
(Removal, leaks, attacks, blackmail and @TuckerCarlson: The law of unintended consequences) - In ancient Rome, a group of men loyal to the Republic feared that Julius Caesar was going to make his dictatorship permanent and establish a monarchy. In 44 BC. they decided to assassinate him, thereby restoring the Republic.
In the ensuing chaos and power vacuum, Caesar's great nephew Octavius quickly rose to the top, assumed power, and permanently ended the Republic by establishing a de facto monarchy. After Caesar's death, it came out that he had never intended to create a monarchical system. The conspirators brought about precisely what they had tried to stop.
In 19th century India, under British colonial rule, authorities decided there were too many venomous cobras in the streets of Delhi, making life uncomfortable for the British residents and their families. To solve this, they offered a reward for every dead cobra residents would bring in. Soon, enterprising locals began to breed cobras in order to make a living from the bounty. The government caught on to this and canceled the program.
The breeders, resentful of the rulers and angered by their actions, decided to release their cobras back on the streets, thereby tripling the population from before the government program.
Other notorious examples would include the 18th amendment establishing prohibition in the United States in 1920, which was designed to stop the spread of alcoholism but only ended up increasing alcohol consumption by a substantial amount, and the surprise attack on Pearl Harbor by the Japanese in 1941, designed to decimate the US. Naval force in one blow and bring America to its knees. Instead, it shook the American public out of its deep isolationism, ensuring the total mobilization of the country's superior manpower and resources to not only defeat the Japanese, but also to obliterate its military for good. The very success of the attack guaranteed the opposite of the intended result, @RobertGreene writes in the Laws of Human Nature.
O death, where is your sting?
O fear, where is your power?
For the mighty King of kings has disarmed you!
Delivered and redeemed,
Eternal life is ours,
O praise His name forever!
Hallelujah, Christ is risen from the grave!
It's Friday, but Sunday's coming!
"But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed."
Isaiah 53:5
A nonsensical story was told that the Russians are so smart that they manipulated not so smart Americans into electing @realDonaldTrump. They did it with what we were told was Russian disinformation. As American networks kept repeating the lie, day in, day out, at some point, it appeared almost believable. That was in 2016 and it was all BS. A painstaking investigation and millions of dollars wasted proved that it was all a malicious deception, a hoax!
In 2020, we were told @JoeBiden was elected President because the Russians failed to spread disinformation, especially with Hunter Biden laptop. It was all BS.
The laptop story was true, had nothing to do with Russia and intelligence agencies lied about it and suppressed the story. They essentially suppressed a true and damaging story that could affect one candidate in the election.
Looking back, I keep wondering, how could millions and millions of people who are smarter than many people in Russia bought the lie that the Russians were the ones who elected Trump but Americans were the ones who elected Biden?
As I analyze the media landscape in the United States, I realize that you do not need any Russian to manipulate the people, the media here are already doing the job! Besides, the American people are smart enough to elect who they want.
Right now, the people on television who are so upset that some people are rejecting Biden's election because they say intelligence agencies interfered are the same people who were pushing the big lie about the Russians electing an American President.
The people who repeatedly rejected or questioned the 2016 election are calling for anyone who questions the 2020 election to be canceled. The hypocrisy is unbreakable and it's a shame.