honestly, if u know how difficult and how long it took some people to recover their peace of mind and happiness, you'll understand why they shut all doors at any slight discovery of toxicity, and also why they can be so picky about who they allow in their lives.
The reality is this: if you are in an environment that triggers anxiety, insecurity, lack of safety and trust, you can only pretend to be secure and confident in that environment for so long until the facade collapses. Insecurity is not a personality trait. It’s the result of
"when you allow room for goodness even cautiously you start recognizing it. not because the world suddenly became kinder, but because your eyes stopped scanning only for danger."
Sorry, but a partner who ruins your mental health cannot be the love of your life. Ever. I know you love them. I know you've built a future in your mind with them. I know you keep hoping they’ll change, that things will get better, that the good moments will eventually outweigh the bad.
But here's the truth you need to hear: real love doesn't destroy you. Real love doesn't leave you anxious, depressed, constantly questioning yourself, walking on eggshells, or losing pieces of who you are. That's not love, that's trauma bonding.
The reality is that it doesn’t matter if someone wants to or not. If you have expectations that are not being met then they’re not being met. If you communicate about it and there’s no improvement? You’re wasting your time and need to move on
My favorite part of the World Cup has been the boys that flop on the ground hoping to get a card and nothing happens and they have to slowly get up while the game continues
people who know random things are so platonically attractive to me like yes let me be your best friend tell me about the history of bookbinding and why old books smell so distinct when they age.