@jouissancehater [consideringly] instead of trying to find a justification for toxic behaviour in yaoi i think we should flip the script completely. more abusive bottoms
@jouissancehater EXACTLY. anyways i didnt reply bc im bad about replying to comments so idk if they got it tattooed or not. i kind of hope not for their sake
@jouissancehater man... that section is haunting me actually. man cant even enjoy one last biscuit before he kicks it, he can only remember that he used to. that's sincerely miserable
@jouissancehater related story. in high school i got in trouble with a teacher for using the term "people of color" because she thought it was the same as saying "colored people" and i was unable to convince her that poc is the modern term du jour
@jouissancehater i used to go thru cycles/phases of expanding my online circles > reveling in a new friend group > over years, people drop off > isolation leads to a critical low > repeat. but it's been a while since that cycle looped for me. maybe because milkyserver is so stable <3
@jouissancehater all this to say... i think you can be a lesbian if you want and keep doing exactly what you're doing. but also if you decide you're not a lesbian that won't erase the community you've built because you're surrounded by people who care about YOU and not what word you choose 💜
@jouissancehater i dont use the term for myself primarily because i'm not interested in being a woman, which is perhaps a closeminded approach to thinking about lesbianism since i can't even define for you what a woman is 🤷 but it works alright for me