I was asked how to overcome anxiety and fear of losing trades...
For thing we must do is to remind ourselves that we alone are the one in control of entering trades. Risk is nonexistent, until we are in a position. We must have a sound model in which we employ with our trades... not impulsive hunches or copying someone else.
We must control greed and this is by limiting the number of trades we are permitting ourselves in any given metric, e.g. - per week, day or session.
We must know our self, what causes us to go off the rails, or gives us too much of an ego driven mania. This can only be discovered in a systematic desensitization process of deleveraged executions with a single model, away from the witness and influence of anyone else.
Learning to be content with enough. As humans, we tend to covet what others have or can do. Accept the fact that you are learning to read the market well, over time.
It does not happen for everyone quickly and it is absolutely normal for you to feel as if it is taking longer than you want.
Submit to it and the time you personally require. This is self-control, not denial of success.
There are no shortcuts, no matter how anyone else markets it or promises.
"Slow is smooth, smooth is fast."
What Makes Taking Losses Scary?
The absence of a sound trading model and impeccable Risk Management.
You fear losses, because you don't know your model, it's efficiency and yourself.
You will lose, given enough opportunities trying.
A sound model in the hands of a capable, sober-minded Trader, that employs impeccable Risk Management, prevents fear of losses; and replaces it with concern over KPI's.
The more you know...
sat next to a 20 year old guy on a plane who casually mentioned he made $4.5 million last year
didn't look rich
t-shirt
jeans
beat up backpack
i asked what he did
"i trade futures"
"full time?"
"yeah, about 3 hours a day"
"$4.5 million in 3 hours a day?"
"well, it's not really about hours, it's about decisions. i probably make 10-15 decisions per month that matter. the rest is just waiting"
"what do you mean?"
"most people think trading is constant action. it's not. it's 99% waiting for your setup, 1% executing. that's why most people fail. they can't handle doing nothing"
he pulled out his laptop
showed me his calendar
90% of trading days marked: "NO TRADE"
"this is march, see? 31 days. i traded 7 times. made $380k that month"
"7 trades made $380k?"
"yeah, because they were the RIGHT 7 trades. everyone else took 200 trades that month and lost money because they were WRONG trades. quality over quantity"
"how do you know which 7 to take?"
"i don't trade unless i'd bet my house on it"
"what?"
"every trade, i ask myself: would i bet my house on this setup? if the answer is no, i don't trade. most setups? the answer is no. but 7 times this month, the answer was YES"
he kept talking:
"the biggest mistake retail traders make is thinking they need to trade every day. you don't. you need to trade WHEN YOUR SETUP APPEARS. some months that's 15 times. some months that's 3 times"
"what about consistency?"
"consistency isn't daily trading. consistency is ONLY taking your setup. if your setup appears once a week, you trade once a week. if it appears 5 times in a day, you trade 5 times that day. the market doesn't care about your need for action"
"but i feel like i'm wasting time if i'm not trading"
"that's employee mindset. you think time = money. it doesn't. correct decisions = money. i make more doing nothing 24 days a month than you make forcing trades every single day"
he was right
i was trading out of BOREDOM
not opportunity
i tested this for 90 days:
BEFORE "house bet" filter:
- 156 trades
- 41% win rate
- -$3,800
AFTER "house bet" filter:
- 11 trades
- 73% win rate
- +$14,200
11 trades in 90 days
because i stopped trading
and started WAITING
the plane guy was right:
"most traders are addicted to action. they need to DO something. that's why they lose. the real money is in doing NOTHING until the perfect setup appears. but doing nothing feels like you're not working, so people force trades"
"how do you handle the boredom?"
"i have a life outside trading. i go to the gym. i read. i travel. trading is 3 hours a day MAX. the other 21 hours i'm living. you guys are staring at charts 12 hours a day hoping something happens. that's not trading. that's gambling addiction"
he closed his laptop
"here's the secret: the less you trade, the more you make. i know guys trading 500 times a month making $0. i trade 15 times a month making $400k. the difference? i'm SELECTIVE. they're ACTIVE. market rewards selectivity, punishes activity"
flight landed
he gave me his card
"if you want to make real money trading, stop trying to trade every day. start waiting for YOUR setup only. 90% of trading is waiting. 10% is executing. master the waiting and you'll make more money doing nothing than everyone else makes doing everything"
i never saw him again
but i think about that conversation every single day
the math is simple:
you're not paid by the trade
you're paid by the CORRECT trade
taking 200 trades with 40% accuracy = -$5k
taking 20 trades with 70% accuracy = +$50k
same account
different approach
completely different outcome
most of you are over-trading
thinking activity = profit
it doesn't
selectivity = profit
the traders making $500k+/year
they trade LESS than you
not more
they're better at WAITING
not better at TRADING
master the wait
make the money
The best thing I ever decided to do was stop caring what people thought and just went on my own path
Do it yourself or sit back and watch someone else live your dream
your equity curve is a mirror, it reflects how much you trust your system vs how much you deviate
if you want to change your trading, you have to change the person the market is reflecting back at you
Improve your life and discipline outside the charts and you see it reflect to your trading
How can you expect to be disciplined in the charts if your a lazy sack of 💩 all day everyday