It was 8 PM on a Friday, and my partner was dead asleep on the living room sofa, still in his work clothes.
I was on FaceTime with a friend who was getting ready for a massive night out. She asked what my weekend plans were, and I flipped the camera to show him resting.
She sighed, doing her makeup. “Girl, doesn't it bother you? You’re young, it's Friday, and you're just watching a man sleep. You deserve the princess treatment. If he really wanted to take you out and show you off, he would.”
I looked at him. I looked at the dark circles under his eyes and the laptop still open on the coffee table.
What my friend didn’t see was that earlier that week, he had quietly taken over two of my biggest bills so I could afford to take a lower-paying job that I actually loved. He had been pulling 14-hour days for months, absorbing all the financial pressure so I could finally breathe.
I didn’t argue with her. I just calmly said,
“He is giving me the soft life. The soft life is me waking up without panic because he goes to war every single day. I’m not going to punish him for returning from that war exhausted.”
The line got quiet. I told her to have fun, hung up, and draped a blanket over him.
The internet has completely warped our idea of what love looks like. It has convinced women that "princess treatment" means endless aesthetic dates, constant entertainment, and a partner who operates with infinite energy.
But a man cannot simultaneously be in the trenches securing your absolute safety, and have the carefree energy of a guy with zero responsibilities.
I realized that night: The ultimate luxury isn't a man who takes you out to be seen. It’s a man who makes your life so incredibly secure that fiercely protecting his rest becomes your biggest priority.
The documentary for ANTM on Netflix made Tyra Banks look worse. Now, it’s no longer just about the show and it being dated culturally it’s about her being a bad person in general. She did the contestants bad and she did her friends Miss J, J, and Nigel terribly too.
IKTR, Keya! We love a woman who knows her worth and refuses settle for less just to have a ring on her finger.
+ I appreciate how highly she spoke of Tyler after all was said and done. #LoveIsBlind
And don’t forget about, 50 Cent, Youngboy NBA, Sexyy Red, Snoop Dogg and the other Trumpers from our community. Nicki deserves criticism but so do the other popular figures in our community. Nicki is not alone in the cesspool.
We haven’t had the best relationship over the years but I’ve enjoyed our journey and building our relationship and I wouldn’t trade him or our experiences
I’m way too skeptical. Called my dad for car advice to confirm what I learned on Google then called to confirm that Google and my dad were both right. And if my mommy said the shit was wrong then the shot would’ve been wrong 😂