@ptreatshaven I didn’t even know ValueJet flies to Benin! 😭😂 I’m very much aware of their Abuja–Lagos route and honestly, they’ve been really good. Professional service, they’re usually quite time-conscious, and I’ve had a much better experience with them compared to some of the others.
But I will never understand why a girl in her early 20s will decide to settle for a man In his 40s
Are you getting pressured by your family to get married? What exactly is the reason?
I don't know how many times I have said this, but I won't get tired of saying it.
Because almost every week, I read from wives who have regrets.
I have told you young women, if you have 10 men who are interested in marrying you, and 9 out of the 10 are below 35.
Please consider the 9 below 35 before considering the one above 35.
And that one who says he's 36 or 37, please verify that he is truly 36 or 37.
We have married women who are not even 35 yet who are already the breadwinners.
And their husbands are in their 40s or 50s.
Stop saying that you like much older men.
Keep the age gap slim and make sure that he's not a lazy man.
If a man that is far older than you says that he wants to marry you, make sure that he's not a struggling man.
He must show signs or evidence that he's doing well, and that his source of income is sustainable.
Do not listen to his pity stories.
Do not listen to "God will provide."
Do not get carried away with his "mature talks."
Do not get carried away by how good he is in bed.
This economy is tough.
And you need young men who would swallow their pride and get their hands dirty to feed, cloth and house you and your future children.
All these above 35 men have uneccesary pride and before you know it, when they get to their 40s, they'll tell you that they're tired and cannot do certain jobs to feed you and pay the bills anymore.
They'll start to depend on you.
If you try to remind them to buckle up, they'll start accusing you of wanting to kill them.
They'll be comparing themselves with their mates who are doing well, even when they have not put in the same effort.
They'll be attending village meetings and performing 'ummuna' upandan.
They'll be going from one church to another, looking for miracles.
They'll be going to the village to look for land that they can sell.
They'll be involving themselves in local politics and placing sports bets and gambling to see if they can make a little money.
And you will be aging faster than you should.
These things that I am warning you against are real, and they happen every day.
If you search within your family, you'd see at least one example of what I am talking about.
A man's most productive years start from 25 and begin to peak from 50.
Anything that he has not been able to achieve at 50, he'll struggle to achieve thereafter.
Except he has built a proper foundation for himself and planned accordingly.
Then that's when you'd see him happy in his 50s and still very responsible towards you and the children.
I am not God, but I know that I have wisdom.
And I also know that men would not be happy with this thread, and I don't care.
End.