Rabi'ah

[OLUCHI🫦 ( you have no funder) @Phatbabeluuu]

Especially for single mums, Nigeria really has to get better. It affects us more than we like to admit.

[Beyoncé follows her @MsAdaO]

Instilling fear as a parenting strategy can’t even work anymore. Children of this generation and the coming one are getting bolder and bolder.

[Marietta @EfeTheeGreat]

If you know you can't raise kids without hitting them, DON'T HAVE KIDS. You must not prove to society that you're fertile.

[Rerenitemi♈️ @O_belau]

Lol, y’all believe that girls are inherently more polite and considerate than boys. However, the truth is that children of all genders are still developing their emotional regulation skills and may say things that are hurtful or unkind.

[Saint Mari @teslimalabi_]

Adding to the list because of this response:

- We are uncomfortable critiquing these systems because criticism threatens authority which is the point of the violence in the first place.

[ᴅᴇʙꜱ✨ @Bigdebs222]

Getting pregnant and birthing a child that didn’t ask to be born into poverty and then turning around to start making them feel less of themselves and mounting pressure on them like this is pure wickedness!

Don’t give birth to a whole human being if you can’t provide their basic and emotional needs and allow them live peacefully under your roof till they can be independent and move out willingly.

[Ayelawaje $ @Fanciee_]

I love how everyone is talking about their mom’s and nobody is dragging them but the moment somebody comes out to talk about their father, males will remember it’s wrong to air your family matter in public.

[Saint Mari @teslimalabi_]

The beatings worked like mad:

- we cannot challenge authority
- we keep electing leaders that rob us and rub it in our faces
- we maintain a culture of silence that enables the cycle of abuse
- we dissociate and can only process difficult emotions through the lens of religion

[Sylvia Nenye. @Sylvianenyee]

The beatings did not work anyway. You people are still wild animals.

[Crochet Creator🧶 @OreAkinde]

I think people that want to have children should research, read and learn how to be proper parents after working through their own trauma. It’s not just enough to want kids, can you raise level headed responsible children without harming or abusing them?

[Oserin💖✨ @DamilohunA]

you see how a lot of parents in the past generation treated their kids horribly?

it’s because they didn’t want to be parents. they didn’t want to do all that. they were frustrated. they were angry at the responsibility.

please do not have kids if you can’t be a happy parent. it’s really not by force.

[panic button collector🍉(18/50📚) @__dabira__]

That gentle parenting iron fist tweet coming from that account in particular is so funny to me because when they tweet about romantic love, it's always about softness and this and that. But it's your little kids you want to do iron fist for😭

[Bella Hadidn’t @SkinwithLolami]

Like is it the “Gentle” word that elicits such reaction? Who else should you be gentle with if not children?😭

[ThatPortharcourtBoy aka Nnukwu Nmanwu @ThatPHCBoy]

all the beating that nigerian parents beat their kids growing up, did it work? as a collective, do we behave like people who were well raised? this does not even require any sophisticated study, the answer is starring us in the face

[Bella Hadidn’t @SkinwithLolami]

That’s why I try to approach children with curiosity before judgment. Sometimes the child everyone has given up on is simply a child who hasn’t been understood yet.

[Oserin💖✨ @DamilohunA]

there was a boy at my last placement. My baby Asher. the other teachers said they couldn’t get him to do anything, he wasn’t responsive etc. 3 year old.

by the end of my first day w him he tried to follow me home.

none of them could understand him enough to communicate effectively, but I did.

I got him to write, to color, to participate with other kids, to feed himself even.

it was a tough job but I did it. not everyone is willing to come down to a child’s level of understanding.

[💋MsRayBay💋 @MsRayBay]

@cynugwudike Its parents using “Spare the rod and spare the child” as an excuse to beat a child like a dog.

[Fọlá @lafemmefola]

The stories of mother to daughter abuse that are being shared as a result of this piece is the reason I hate those “give grace to your mother” tweets. Mothers are usually their daughter’s first abusers and we need to talk about this more. It’s a cycle that needs to end!

[the devil's 👿workshop🌈🇳🇬🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩✍🏿 @ddevilsworkshop]

@SkinwithLolami This

[Bella Hadidn’t @SkinwithLolami]

I really don’t like the way a lot of us talk about our hypothetical children before those children even exist. There’s so much emphasis on “showing them who’s boss”,“dealing with them” or making sure they’re afraid of you. It makes me wonder whether we’ve truly examined the parenting we experienced ourselves. Please, we need to unlearn a lot of the things that were done to us simply because we believe we “turned out fine.”

Children will absolutely test your patience. They’ll push boundaries, make mistakes and frustrate you. That’s part of being a child. But you’re the adult. You’re the one with the fully developed brain, the life experience and the responsibility to be more emotionally regulated.