@ask_aubry It's not just a color, it's everything before this as well. This is your life if you get married to him. He'll do everything for mommy dearest, and she can't even let you have your desired color.
@ask_aubry Leave. It won't be easy, but find a way. If he's willing to line all this up in such a way that you are trapped, what else will he do if you stay? Quietly plan an exit while calmly telling him you are not okay with this. Do not tell him you are planning an exit right off.