If you are in your 30s, you should read.
When I started my career, I thought life would eventually become stable.
Work hard. Get promoted. Increase your salary. Buy a house.
And then one day, you'd feel "settled."
I'm starting to think that day doesn't exist.
At 25, I worried about getting a job. At 35, the worries are different.
Parents are getting older. Kids are growing up faster than you'd like. Your body doesn't recover the way it used to.
The industry changes every year. New technologies appear. AI keeps raising new questions.
And somehow, there are still not enough hours in the day.
What surprised me most is that the stress isn't usually coming from one big problem. It's coming from carrying 20 small responsibilities at the same time.
Family.
Career.
Health.
Finances.
Future planning.
Being available for everyone who depends on you.
The older I get, the more I realize that success isn't about eliminating problems. It's about learning which problems deserve your energy.
I can't control the economy. I can't control layoffs. I can't control where technology will be five years from now.
But I can control:
• How much I save.
• How I take care of my health.
• The time I spend with my family.
• The skills I continue to build.
• The things I allow to occupy my mind.
For years I thought the goal was to become successful. Now I think the goal is simpler. Build a life that doesn't constantly feel like an emergency.
Maybe that's what being settled actually means.
@DominicCarterLA They said the same thing about the iPhone. Probably the Mac, too. I don’t remember.
And who knows, if Apple puts their shoulder into it, the Mac and the iPhone might turn out to be a success!
I know people who, as a child, had their heads slammed in the microwave door by one parent while the other watched. Or who were choked only to have the other parent try to justify it. Many other examples.
Those people at the very least keep their parents at a distance.
But they’re ungrateful? For what?! Who should be grateful for abuse?
This isn’t some evil plan by those people or anyone else. It’s survival.
Officially 1 month since I switched to a flip phone.
- Everyone is more severely addicted to their smartphones than I thought. Once you have a dumbphone, you'll frequently find yourself as the only person in the room not on their phone. It's not just teenagers, it's parents and adults of all ages. It's like everyone is stuck in a trance. 75+ year olds might be the only exception.
- All the objections I previously had for getting a dumbphone have turned out to be overblown and/or solvable. My iPhone addiction had fed my brain excuses to not do this earlier. If you really want to make the switch, you can.
- I've felt embarrassed to pull out my flip phone in public at times, for fear of being different or drawing too much attention to myself. But I have learned to just own up to it. Most people end up saying something like "Oh, I probably should do that too."
- I am using my brain more. Even though my flip phone has Waze, I find myself memorizing maps and roads. I'm more bored and get lost in my thoughts. I'm using paper and pen more. Increased desire for tangible things > digital things.
Overall, it has been a great experience and I plan on never going back.
Move fast, break shit, abuse your users' privacy, destroy the fabric of society, and now do all that while not caring one bit about security.
Good job, Zuck,
https://t.co/c5M8tsFtjK
Built a pottery app today, where your real hands throw virtual clay 🏺
Hand tracking > clay deformation > real-time physics
No controller. No stylus. Just hands.
Everything built within @omma_ai + threejs
Model of the puppet hand: credit to LiamVandeWouwer (SketchFab)
Vote with your feet and with your wallet. That’s the only thing that will get the attention of these companies. Demand that they treat their customers right.
This might seem petty to some but to me its a deal breaker. Took the family to a "dine in" Pizza Hut last night. The waitress brings the menus and I notice it has no prices on it. I asked her for one that has the prices as that helps me decide what to order. She said that I could scan the QR code on my phone to get the prices. Great, but I have a rule at the supper table and its no cell phones, not even mine. So that wasn't an option unless I went back out to the car and get my cell phone. So I did go back out to my car along with my whole family and went to another pizza restaurant that had prices on the menu. Later on I checked on line and found out that it wasn't just this Pizza Hut but many of them lack menu prices because corporate frequently adjusts costs. Sorry corporate but, I think this is wrong. I want a menu with prices on it or I may think your are being deceptive.
@craigweiss We have reached a point now where leadership at tech companies only know one mode: full-on FUD all day every day.
I honestly don't know why.
I just went to a website where a full page ad was displayed and couldn't be dismissed until the ad was finished.
I left the site.
We CANNOT condone or encourage this behavior.
It is anti-web.
I'm all for people making a living but either charge for the value you provide or don't. It's that simple.
My wife just now:
"I'm driving down a street and there are four people walking. Two of them are boomers and two of them are our age. Where do you think the boomers are walking?"
I see it happen in my neighborhood daily.
A whole generation of people who think it's ok to walk in the middle of the road.