Darren Conley

Software Test Developer at D2L. Father of two amazing humans. Reasonably intelligent. Unreasonably curious. Opinions are my own, facts belong to everyone!

[Darren Conley @dcprime]

@JeremyWingert79 I do find these topics fascinating, though. How society treats masculine and feminine sexuality, and why certain things are considered "better" or "worse" than others. My purity culture baggage still colors my thoughts, but I'd like to develop a sober view.

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@JeremyWingert79 I do think there is some analogy between these books and porn for men (for better or worse), but these books are much more tolerated by women and by society in general.

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@JeremyWingert79 I know many women who regularly read these books, and many of them are people I would never have guessed were into them.

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@NoContextHumans Pizza ovens are typically more than 700 degrees F, so any germs from bare hands are wiped out in the cooking process. I've worked at several restaurants. Very typical to use bare hands to handle food before it is cooked. This is a nothing-burger (pizza).

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@tardwife4life I was born in 1975 and my grandparents always looked old to me. I don't think I knew any of them when they were in their 40s or 50s.

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@JeremyWingert79 Divorce in middle age sucks for men.

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@TheAtlantic @CaitlinPacific Each gender builds its own echo chambers until we don't speak the same language anymore. And porn (be it internet videos or smut novels) fills that gap that each gender is losing the skills to address. Porn proves there is always money to be made exploiting fear of "the other".

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@TheAtlantic @CaitlinPacific Both men and women need to invest in real relational skills - resolving conflicts instead of ghosting, showing grace instead of judgement, getting to know someone as a complex human instead of seeing them filtered through the generalizations of the group chat...

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@danishacarterr Not only do women have no idea what happens in a men's bathroom, they're making insane assumptions in this debate. How is anyone in danger of molestation when each daughter is in her own stall, and their dad is right there with them?

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@LauraRbnsn Hot take (although not outside Christian circles): Christians self-select for gullibility by choosing to believe in YEC, Noah's Ark, "Left Behind"-style prophecies, etc. and thus become the target of every woo-woo grifter that caters to conspiracy-style thinking.

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@LauraRbnsn There were also Jane's two female cousins, who she thought were amazing, despite them being prettier than her, and who were absolutely not bitches. Could it be that you just have a soft spot for Blanche?

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@HardFiat @FloraRodgersxo Porn is about making money, not celebrating non-Biblically-affirmed sexuality. Performative sexual righteousness does nothing but earn you brownie-points with people who already believe the same way you do.

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@sjc6254 @vxylily This is the correct answer.

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@hot_cocoa_girl Biggest issue: No feedback mechanism to improve your profile. Users could be helping one-another become better people with better profiles, but instead we toss people onto "yes" or "no" piles and move on.

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@emilykmay Non-sexual touch is great, but I don't know if making out falls into that category. Also, men who cannot experience intimate touch without wanting sex are probably already sex-starved. Very few couples prioritize sexual health and sexual growth in their marriages.

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@RealDianeYap "Sex only if both parties are eager for it" should be the default. Having said that, couples need to better prioritize sexual health in their marriages. It is an integral component of experiencing emotional intimacy (for men to experience it, for women it reflects it).