I love calmness. I don’t want to argue with anyone these days. i have learned to avoid difficult people, nothing is more precious than to live in peace.
dating to marry will make you realize that the "plenty of fish in the sea" narrative is false. alot of people are really not worth that level of intimacy
It’s really selfish to enter someone’s life, see that they’re a loving, cheerful and good person and decide to ruin their peace because you haven’t dealt with your own issues.
A person doesn’t have to only drain you with arguments & fights. They can drain you with lack of communication, lack of trust, lack of empathy, lack of apologizing, lack of acknowledgment & lack of fulfilling your love language.
No disrespect to anyone, but God please don't send me another partner who doesn't know how to communicate, take accountability, or emotionally show up. I don't want a partner who's still battling their own issues, avoiding healing, depressed, or emotionally unavailable and refusing help. I don't want a partner who can't stand firm, speak with clarity, or take control of their own life.