Oyinejor James Obande

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[Oyinejor James Obande @de_incredibl]

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[Oyinejor James Obande @de_incredibl]

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[Oyinejor James Obande @de_incredibl]

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[Oyinejor James Obande @de_incredibl]

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[Oyinejor James Obande @de_incredibl]

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[Àgbà John Doe (back up) @jon_d_doee]

God ordained marriage, yes.

But not everyone will or should get married.

What fuels marriage is money.

And it's largely hinged on the man.

If the man that you are dating right now is not showing you any true potential to provide financially in marriage, please do not get married to him.

As a woman, you'd suffer in that marriage if you get married to a lazy man.

Or if you get married to a man that is just struggling to get by.

And you won't be able to function properly as either a mother or a wife.

The only way that you'd be able to function properly, is if your husband takes away the burden of provision from you.

Your heart would be heavy if you heard the cries of hunger from your children.
And your husband would be there, doing nothing about it.

The reason I am saying this is because a lot of wives and mothers are living in regret. They constantly call for financial help from family and friends so that they can feed their children.

But they have husbands.

Yesterday, I posted a video of a man and his wife publicly embarrassing themselves.

The wife was screaming that she pays the school fees, she feeds the kids, she does this and that, and her husband was shamelessly standing there, replying to her.

If you watched the video to the end, you would have heard the man wishing that his wife would die before him.

That is why I keep telling you women about the dangers of enabling a man, or getting married to a man who hasn't proven to you that he's willing or capable of stepping into that role as a father and husband.

He resents his wife, but he's eating her food.

He takes his wife's money, but he wishes her dead.

His wife is paying the school fees for the kids, but he's angry and wishes to ruin the business that provides her the money to do those things.

Those ones are the ones that decided to wash their dirty linens in the public.

There are thousands of homes like that.

And I am pretty sure that some of you married women reading this are experiencing same.

A man doesn't have to be rich before he marries a wife, but he must be ready to take up the financial responsibilities of his household.

That is how he must start.

He must do this with kindness & sacrifice, and with God on his side.

The wife must see that he has been able to show that he's the head of the home.

Now, this is where I want to land.

There are married men who have maintained this role for many years in their marriage, until things became tough financially.

That's life and it happens. And when this happens, it affords the man the opportunity to see who he is truly married to.

Would his wife change in her behavior towards him because she's genuinely concerned about him, or would she change because she is no longer interested in the marriage?

Will she step into his role temporarily as a support, or would she abandon him to his fate?

Whichever one it is, your prayer as a man is that God may continue to show you mercy and keep you in good health so that you'll continue to be the provider as much as you can.

Because once money is lacking, that marriage will never be the same.

Even if you're married to a good wife.

AJD.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

I was just responding to a DM & something crossed my mind, which I think I need to pass to young people in relationships.

Be careful how you term misunderstandings, quarrels, disagreements as "break ups".

And some of these can linger for weeks or even a month.

Don't just give

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

Let me shock you all doubting Thomases.

There are plenty single women who would treat you like my lovely wife.

Some of you do not just see them, even when they're right in front of you.

My marriage is not significantly different from any happy marriage out there.

Lead your woman right, with all sincerity of purpose, & continue to give her hope.

Guide & mold her towards what you need her to learn, with patience, love and kindness.

Use each quarrel or fights as a teaching moment for each other.

She'll follow your lead with time.

Take away money from your relationship, & test your resolve without it.

Lastly, stop stealing & work & earn legitimately.

Masculinity is shrewd, femininity is malleable.

End.

[Oyinejor James Obande @de_incredibl]

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[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

1) Invest your idle funds
2) Do not be addicted to betting or gambling
3) Do not steal
4) Do not be complacent & upgrade your skill & knowledge
5) Build good connections & don't burn bridges
6) Marry a woman that is contented & very patient
7) Learn to honor your father with your first fruit
8) Do not lead a woman with money
9) Learn to give to charity
10) Be kind to your wife, & be financially transparent
11) Learn to have kids that only you can cater to, without necessarily depending on your wife's money
12) Do not let a woman set you up for failure
13) Plan your wedding mostly according to your resources
14) Hold on tight to God
15) Learn to pay your wife back her debt
16) Invest in yourself, far more than you would want to invest in your wife
17) Learn to say No, sometimes
18) Marry early

You'll surely have financial challenges, but you'll overcome, if you do most of the above.

End.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

It's not about them being irresponsible.

It's more about them losing touch with time & reality.

It's more about them feeling too high, & seeing beginner ladies low.

It's more about them lacking the courage, & will to be providers early enough, so as to be productive & healthier for their kids.

It's more about them hoping to have a wife who will be providers, when they can no longer provide.

Age is a very important factor to consider when a man wants to marry a wife.

And a man who wants to be there for his wife and kids financially, will start early.

The average retirement age for a man is 60.

You cannot be paying school fees for a primary or secondary school child, when you should playing with your grandchildren, or at least retired, or with far less responsibilities to shoulder.

[Rabbi @OshioQuake]

Thank you for this Agba,,,,

I know there are people who people who think the future arrives by LUCK... Because I can see comments from different post where couple of persons said "Agba think say na so life dey programmed..." (Paraphrasing what they connote) Yes life is not programmed but there are those who understand that the future is a DELIBERATE CONSTRUCTION, brick by brick, choice by choice & circle by circle. Some destinies are not stumbled into,,, THEY ARE DESIGNED!

Anytime I read from you Agba, I see you as a man who didn’t wait for time,,, you prepared for it. And I see a lot of myself in you...

When you KNOW YOUR WORTH early & KNOW WHERE YOU'RE GOING early ,,, you will stop gambling with your destiny. You will stop confusing distraction for enjoyment & you start planting seeds that maturity will one day harvest,,,

For those still on campus,,, understand that University isn't just a campus to you,,, it was a training ground. A place where the careless will LEARN regret & th9se who are careful will EARN reward. Instead of wasting your 4,5,,6 years on campus, chasing clout, chasing pleasure & whoring around, you should invest in discipline,,, you know why? Because the world never denies excellence,,,, nooooo, it only delays it long enough to test your patience.

Make sure your friends you choose are intentional. Stay in a circle of minds sharpened like chisels, each one carving his own ladder upwards.

The Gen Z generation is brilliant, INNOVATIVE & outspoken,,, but many confuse freedom for foolishness & self-expression for self-destruction. They rush into “vibes”
& delay “vision.” They celebrate “living in the moment”
but forget that consequences do not expire. Gen Z must learn that adulthood does not start at 18,,, it starts the day you realize your future is allergic to your excuses & everything you postpone now will invoice you later.

Your future is not an accident waiting to happen,,, It is a seed waiting to be planted. Stop this "Anyhow e be make e be" attitude...

A wise man said the best time to plant a tree was yesterday. The second best time is right now.

Shalom,

Good morning Agba🙏

[Oyinejor James Obande @de_incredibl]

@jon_d_doe Sir what if it's not your first salary??

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

A foolish man marries a woman that he thinks loves him.

Women don't love men.

Find a woman that'll respect you, & submit in marriage.

That's what you need, to lead a woman.

And you must earn it.

"I love you" from a woman, is a noun.

"I love you" from a man, is a verb.

End.

[𝐈𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐞 𝐊𝐥𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐠 @iamklausenburg]

Take your financial life very seriously.

Draft plans on how to spend your money before it comes.

Don't be reckless or indulge in exuberance.

The spirit of money observes your spending.

When you lavish it.

You become an "old taker."

Learn or learn the hard way

[Ja Leto @_falsi1ke]

Saying nothing but retweet 📌

[Oyinejor James Obande @de_incredibl]

@jon_d_doe He already have his answer!

[Oyinejor James Obande @de_incredibl]

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