It’s strange and beautiful to realise that you can be simultaneously proud of how far you have come and aware that you have barely scratched the surface of who you could become.
Whenever I come back from “the abroad”, the first thing I look for is Suya and roasted corn. My Mai Suya are very diligent. The only days they are not there are on Sallah holidays.
Having been “in the abroad” for more than a month, I looked forward to my local ram suya. They were not there on Saturday. I thought “That’s odd!” They were not there again on Sunday. I felt that something must be wrong.
When they were not there again by 12 noon on Monday, as they usually are everyday, I was really concerned.
There is a smart young woman who does a POS business near them. I asked her why they had not come for three days and she said that they had a little problem. I asked her what “little problem” they had.
Apparently, someone had come to buy Suya from them. While he was buying the Suya, a car thief entered his car and drove it away. He then accused my Suya guys of being responsible for the theft of his car, since he was buying Suya from them when it was stolen. He had all of them arrested and locked up!
I asked for their numbers and the POS lady said that they had seized all their phones. I didn’t know which police station they were at. I didn’t know their names and on the occasions that I had paid for my suya with a bank transfer, I didn’t save their account details that would have shown a name at least.
I started asking the people I knew in the police, but felt a bit silly saying “I am looking for four Suya guys that were arrested.”
I was determined to intervene because I know that it was just one “big man” taking out his frustrations on some little guys. How long does it take to buy Suya that they will have enough time to organise for your car to be stolen?
Those guys have been on that street for 20 years. They sell four full rams every day. They have come to my house to roast ram suya when I have had major social events.
I asked another Suya guy who sells beef suya nearby whether he had any of their phone numbers but he said that even he doesn’t have a phone, never mind having anybody’s phone number.
After searching for them for a week, I finally found a guy who said that they had now been bailed from the police station and were considering resuming their business. They had lost at least two weeks and were so traumatised by the experience that they did not want to return to the same location on Ebitu Ukiwe where they had been for 20 years!
I arranged with the guy who knew them that he will take me to go and see them when I return from my current trip. I will see if I can persuade them to return to their usual spot next to the diligent POS young woman and the nice lady that sells roasted corn. Perfect combination!
This country can be brutal when you are not a big man. Those of us who are not small in our own right have a duty to help protect the little guys from the typical Naija “big man.” I will find that their accuser, somehow, someway. You might think that you are a big man but “Even your boo get a boo (a boo, a boo).”
I am Ezemmuo. I know things.
Guys, whatever they say, try and own your own house by the time you turn 40. Even if it is one room, let it be one room somewhere on this earth that you own. You can choose to rent it out and be a tenant elsewhere, but have a house to your name.
I am Ezemmuo. I know things.
There is so much greatness within you. So much. But you will have to bring it to the surface through digging.
Dig, dig, dig.
Do not permit yourself to do what’s easy.
Do the hard thing, and when you have done all of that, time will reveal the greatness within you.
One thing about me, I'll keep working till I get lucky...
I was speaking to a younger filmmaker tonight and she was telling me how hard things are. My only message to her was; don't give up.
It took me almost 3 years to raise the 45m it took to produce Isoken. It was my first film, I knew nothing about film distribution, worse still, no one with experience was sharing information.
I was flying blind and people would call me with so much misinformation pulling me in a million directions. The anxiety from the publicity period leading to the box office release was so intense, I couldn't leave my house for weeks after. I considered giving up, going back to banking, marketing comms, heck even tech (I used to programme banking software, I've lived many lives lol)
5 years later, my life would completely change and I would be signing a deal only God could have orchestrated. But I was only able to sign that deal because it met me with work in my hands. I kept at it... even when it wasn't glamours. Even when I drove the same car for 10years because I was reinvesting everything into my business. My cast and crew would tease me about it for years lol. Even when I couldn't attend my close friend's wedding in Santorini because I had just made a film and in the entire value chain of the business, Producers get paid last and so I was broke lol.
I firmly believe in seasons, and though the sowing season is tough AF (I still cried to two of my friends yesterday so don't think I'm immune now), the only way you get to harvest is if you have sown.
So get to sowing and be patient💕
I do not always get what I wanted at once.
I wrote O’level four times before I eventually had the coveted C6 in Physics
I wrote JAMB four times before I eventually made it & gained entry into the University, when I eventually got admitted into FUTA in 2012, some of my high school mates were already in their finals.
I started applying for Scholarships in 2017 & only got lucky four years after in 2021; I submitted about 24 applications to different countries & continents before Erasmus Mundus eventually fell on my knees.
I’ve submitted over 4,000 job applications in this Europe, got only about 20 interview invites & only 4 offer letters.
Most of you know me as a Supply chain crooner on this app, but little people knew that’s a career I started after age “30”
Resilience is something I’ll always preach, I’ve lived through it myself.
“Na who give up fuck up abi how dem dey talk am”
Post motivated by @BukkyOA
I’m at a place in my life where God is my only option. I always tell Him “God you know I have no one else but you. If you do not help me no one else can. It's You or You”!🥹
My husband once flew from Houston to Chicago because his sister was having her first baby.
She was alone. The baby’s father was deployed, and everything about that moment felt bigger because of it.
He didn’t overthink it. He just booked the flight and went.
He sat in that waiting room for 14 hours. Quiet, steady, not making a big deal out of it. Read a book, drank way too much vending machine coffee, and just… stayed.
When his sister finally came out of recovery, she was holding the baby. Tired, emotional, overwhelmed in that way only new mothers understand.
She looked at him and said, “You didn’t have to come.”
And he just shrugged a little and said, “I know.”
She smiled, eyes a little teary, and said, “Thank you.”
He shook his head and said, “Don’t thank me. Thank the…
I followed the journey of the 4 astronauts on the Artemis II mission, from their moments in space to the splashdown on Earth at exactly 5:07:27 PT. right through to their extraction and I’ve been sitting with what it stirred in me.
Seven things stayed with me:
🩷First, a deeper reverence for God.
I found myself in awe. Sir, I marvel at the work of Your hands. The Universe. Galaxies. Our Galaxy. The Solar System. The Sun, the Moon, the Stars, Earth, the planets, and yet, You know me by name. We learn about these things by Science, Physics, Engineering, yes. but ultimately, all sustained by God.
💙 Second, a renewed understanding of the order of creation. Everything has a role. The sun shows up. The moon stays in its place. Space holds its structure. No noise or competition, just quiet consistency.
💜Thirdly, perspective.
We see the Moon almost every night, yet it sits about 384,400 km away. A spacecraft would take about 3 days to get there. A commercial airplane would take 18–20 days of nonstop flight. It puts into perspective how vast and how intentional creation is.
💚 Fourth, the people.
The courage of those who give their lives to advancing science. These astronauts understand the risks to launch, orbit, re-entry, and still, they go. Reid Wiseman, Victor Glover, Christina Koch. Jeremy Hansen; 50, 49, 47, 50. A reminder that age is not a limitation, it’s a badge of honour. A call to do even greater things.
💙Fifth, priorities.
No country is perfect, but there are higher things to commit to. Beyond noise, beyond handouts, distractions, there is meaningful work that moves humanity forward.
💙 Sixth, collaboration.
The precision, preparation, the people.
Teams trained hard, ground crew, engineers, recovery team, all working in sync. Excellence is never accidental. It is built, layer by layer, by many hands, and credit is shared.
💛 Seventh, awareness.
This is happening in my lifetime.
Not a story I read in a book, but a journey I followed in real time. And now, I don’t see the moon the same way. Or the sky. Or even the Earth.
Grateful for their safe return & perspective.
Let’s make the world a better place.