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“Adversity toughens manhood, and the characteristic of the good or the great man is not that he has been exempt from the evils of life, but that he has surmounted them.”
– Patrick Henry
I worked 20 years for a child sex trafficking rescue group. I want you to know this:
90% of Lost Children Are Found Within 30 Minutes.
That statistic should both comfort you and wake you up.
Most lost children are found quickly. But the ones who aren’t? They usually made one mistake.
And here’s the uncomfortable truth:
It’s often the exact thing most parents teach them.
We tell our kids:
“If you get lost, come find me.”
It sounds logical. It sounds empowering.
It’s WRONG!
The Mistake Most Lost Children Make:
When children realize they’re separated, they do three things almost automatically:
They panic.
They wander.
They try to find you.
Every step makes them harder to locate.
From a search standpoint, movement creates chaos.
Parents retrace their steps.
Security scans zones.
Staff lock down areas.
Search works best when movement stops.
When a child keeps walking, they move outside the original search radius. Helpers are looking where they were last seen — not where they’ve wandered.
Stillness increases probability.
Movement expands the problem.
The first lesson is not “go find me.”
It’s this:
Stop. Stay. Yell.
Why Stillness Wins:
Think like a search team.
If a child stays put:
Parents can retrace steps.
Security can scan systematically.
Helpers converge to one fixed location.
The search radius remains small.
If a child keeps moving:
The search area expands.
Adults pass each other.
Missed connections multiply.
Minutes stretch into hours.
Stillness keeps the math on your side.
Teach Them Who to Approach:
The second mistake we make as parents?
We say, “Find an adult.”
Not any adult. Not the nearest stranger. Children need a filter.
Teach them to look for, if at all possible:
A mother with children.
Caregivers who already have kids with them are statistically among the safest people to approach in public settings. They are visible, stationary, and more likely to engage quickly.
It’s a clear, concrete instruction.
Children don’t process vague categories like “safe adult.”
They process visuals.
“Find a mom with kids” is visual.
A Phone Only Helps If the Number Is Known:
We often assume phones solve everything.
They don’t — unless your child can use one. Even young children can memorize a 10-digit phone number with repetition.
But you must train it.
Practice it like a song.
Sing it in the car.
Chant it at bedtime.
Turn it into rhythm.
Repetition becomes recall.
In an emergency, recall matters more than theory.
The Code Word Rule:
One more layer of protection.
Choose a private family code word.
Something only your household knows.
If someone approaches and says:
“Your mom sent me.”
Your child asks:
“What’s the code word?”
No word.
No go.
This simple rule eliminates manipulation attempts instantly.
It gives your child agency without requiring them to evaluate character.
Real Safety Is Training — Not Luck!
We don’t get safer by hoping.
We get safer by practicing.
Teach:
• Phone number
• Code word
• Stop, stay, yell
• Find a mom with kids
Multiple skills.
Simple instructions.
Clear visuals.
Five minutes of training can replace hours of panic. This isn’t about fear. It’s about preparation.
Because when a child gets separated, the clock starts.
And what they do in the first minute determines what the next thirty look like.
That’s real protection.
@DrJoeAbah @AgboObinnaya Well said in a society that had jettison practical comprehensive education at all level.
From a purely institutional and governance perspective, every media aide and senior government official that the press may interview should have training in adversarial media questioning.
That training was compulsory when I worked in the UK, and I had it then although I was just a senior government official and not an official spokesperson. I was trained by the interviewers of BBC ‘Hard Talk.’
Here, we just appoint people and expect them to know. As an example, we appoint Ministers of Labour and expect them to have negotiation skills. The lack of training means that Ministers of Labour agree to terms during industrial disputes that the government cannot fulfil, leading to incessant strikes by people like ASIU.
You cannot always blame the government for this though. When appointed, YOU are expected to arrange any training YOU need to be effective at your job.
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Tame The Wildlings
If you know your parents are very troublesome by nature, you will not be making much progress in life if you work hard in life to be gentle and accommodating
Troublesome parents always end up smoldering the lives and destinies of their gentle children
They won’t suddenly stop being true to their nature when you get married or have children
They won’t suddenly stop being true to their nature when you start working and having friends
They won’t suddenly stop being true to their nature when dealing with your potential in-laws and potential spouses
When you don’t match their fire with fire as a single person, you end up giving them the permission to set your life on fire when you surround yourself with reasonable people
It is the very first law of preserving our relationships
“dear friends, my mummy can sometimes be like this or like that, when she begins her drama just walk away”
Or you can just give her so much trouble in return that she will learn not to come near you or anything that has your name on it
You will hear “Ha, I don’t put my mouth in GSW’s matter o, chai, I don’t want him to swallow me whole”
Children who don’t do this usually end up exposing everyone who comes into their lives to the fiery nature of such parents
My grandmother is a very strong woman and she is very troublesome too
One day she came to Lagos for a family function and when all her grandchildren went to greet her with their spouses, she kept them on their knees and insisted that each grandchild and their spouses must give her twenty thousand Naira each as greeting money.
All my siblings and cousins were arrested by her move
Most of us just graduated from the university and we were still struggling to make ends meet
We knew not to go greet her empty handed, but that 20K toll was too hefty at the time
I got there and met everybody on their knees begging her
She refused their plea
I walked up to her and dropped 1000 Naira at her feet, I then walked away.
She saw me, greeted me and that was it
The others were there until their friends and parents and other family members raised the money to bail them out.
Later, one of my uncles said “What gave you the audacity not to fall on your knees and start begging like the others.”
I said “Experience”
I am not a bully but if you try to bully me, I will rather die than give in.
My grandmother learnt that the hard way when we were young
She realized I won’t dance to her music and she forever gave me my space until tomorrow.
What she can try with the others, she cannot try with me
However, my obedient cousins still suffer from her hands till today
She insulted the wife of one of them recently, the young lady cried all night.
When my cousin told me, I smiled.
Of course she will never try such with me
I have shielded my family from her antics with my reputation.
When couples tell me stories of how their heavy handed parents ruined their friendships or relationships or marriages by barging into their lives and causing trouble needlessly, I say to them, you were the ones that gave her or them that room.
You knew your parents were ferocious by nature, instead of you to tame them, you allowed them roam freely all over your life
When you allow this, you also open the door to them attacking the other people you attract into your life
Some parents are loving
Some are choking and possessive
Some a Lordy and controlling
Some are street fighters
You are not responsible for which family you came out of but you are responsible for taming them or caging them or distancing yourself from their influence so that they don’t ruin the good things going on in your life
I have seen a lot of people who through sentiments allowed their overbearing parents ruin their marriages
Sometimes this overbearing attitude led to them making decisions that ruined the confidence of their partners in them forever
You may not be able to change your parents but you must manage them so that they know their boundaries
-GSW-
@grok
THE ROMANCE BETWEEN POVERTY & RELIGION — Q&A
Q: Why do poverty and religion reinforce each other so strongly?
A: Because poverty creates uncertainty, and the brain seeks stories to survive uncertainty. Religion provides instant meaning when life feels uncontrollable.
Q: So does religion cause poverty?
A: Not directly. Poverty removes options; religion fills the psychological gap left by those missing options. The loop forms when meaning replaces action.
Q: What exactly does poverty do to the mind?
A: It teaches waiting, endurance, and dependence. People start tolerating what they should be changing because they lack power, not intelligence.
Q: Why does questioning religion feel dangerous to some?
A: Because their identity was built inside the belief. When identity fuses with doctrine, asking “why?” feels like attacking the self.
Q: Why do people rely on prayer instead of planning?
A: Planning requires knowledge, stability, and options. When these are missing, prayer becomes the only accessible strategy for control.
Q: Do people choose comfort over growth?
A: No. They defend the only worldview they were given. What looks like “comfort” is actually conditioning mistaken for truth.
Q: Why do some institutions thrive in poor areas?
A: Dependency is predictable. A desperate person is easier to promise to, easier to inspire, and easier to control.
Q: Is faith the problem?
A: No. Faith can uplift. The problem is when faith replaces learning, curiosity, and action.
Q: Why does poverty produce “spiritual attacks” and blame?
A: Because without literacy or systems-thinking, every failure feels supernatural. Some problems are not demons; they’re poor planning, hunger, or exhaustion.
Q: Why do many people settle for small dreams?
A: Because they were taught “contentment” as holiness. Ambition becomes guilt. Growth becomes pride. Curiosity becomes sin.
Q: How does this cycle finally break?
A: Through exposure, skills, and clarity. Prayer can support movement, but it cannot replace movement.
Q: What is the final truth about generational success?
A: Wealth is not prophecy. Wealth is architecture. You build it consciously or you repeat the patterns you inherited.
Q: What do people truly lose in this loop?
A: The chance to meet their real self — the self that curiosity, intelligence, and ambition would have revealed if it had never been silenced.
The Romance between Poverty and Religion.
1. Poverty and religion feed each other.
One provides the pain…
the other provides the story to survive the pain.
2. You were not created to abandon your gifts
just to fit into someone else’s idea of “holy.”
3. Many were raised to believe questioning religion is a sin.
So instead of learning how life works,
they wait for life to change by miracle.
4. Wealth gives options.
Poverty gives dependency.
When you don’t have power, you look for power through prayer.
5. Poverty teaches patience.
People start tolerating what they should be changing, all in the name of “God will do it.”
6. When you blame the devil for everything,
you never study the system.
And when you never study the system,
the system keeps winning.
7. Faith isn’t the problem. Ignorance is.
8. Religion teaches people to be grateful for anything... even when the “anything” is destroying their future.
9. Poverty trains people to wait.
And the more you wait, the deeper you sink.
10.Some churches thrive because poverty thrives.
A desperate man is the easiest man to control.
11. Poverty steals your confidence…
and religion gives you words to hide the fear you don’t want to confront.
12. Religion is the only place where some people feel powerful without doing anything powerful.
13. Some people aren’t seeking God…
they’re seeking permission to tolerate their suffering.
14. Some don’t want financial literacy.
They want “divine alert.”
15. When you’re broke, every problem becomes “spiritual attack,”
even when it’s just poor planning.
16. Poverty builds strong imaginations.
People start seeing enemies everywhere.
Sometimes the enemy is just hunger & frustration.
17. Some people’s entire financial strategy is:
“God will do it.”
Meanwhile, God is waiting for them to stand up.
18. Some people don’t need prophets…
they need exposure.
19. Religion glorifies smallness.
“You don’t need much, just be content.”
That’s why many settle for tiny businesses with no future, while the world is built by goalgetters.
A goalgetter is someone whose ambition is louder than their excuses.
20.Break the cycle:
Pray if you want…
but upgrade your skills, your environment, and your ambition.
God blesses movement, not silliness. Don't repeat the mistake of your parents.
21. Generational wealth is not a prophecy... it is architecture.
You build it or you don’t.
22. Some people never meet their true selves…
only the version their religion approves.
23. The world loses countless great people because they were taught to silence their most authentic parts.
Any belief system that kills your curiosity
is robbing you of the mind God gave you.
God does not fear your intelligence.
Humans do.
24.If your faith cannot coexist with your growth,
something is wrong... and it’s not you.
THE LONELY END OF A GOOD MAN.
This is the Story of My Friend, Moses Kinuthia, my campus buddy.
Since he has allowed me to share. We were in JKUAT together. Young. Loud. Brilliant.
Full of plans about the future and how we would conquer the world.
Today, Moses is an IT Director at one of the leading commercial banks in the country.
On paper, he is the definition of success.
A man who did everything right.
A man who climbed every rung through discipline and sacrifice.
But this is the part nobody sees.
His day starts before the sun.
He leaves home quietly at 5:20 AM, careful not to wake anyone.
The children are asleep.
His wife barely turns.
Moses tiptoes around the house he pays for, moving like a visitor in the place he built.
He gets to work before everyone because that is where his life makes sense.
At the office, doors open.
People greet him with respect.
Colleagues seek his advice.
Managers rely on him.
In that building, Moses still exists.
But in the house he returns to every evening, he has become a ghost.
When he gets home, the living room is always full kids watching shows, his wife on the phone, her sister in law using the TV.
There is never a seat left for him.
Never a moment that feels like his.
So Moses has learned a ritual.
He walks to his car, closes the door gently, leans the seat back and watches the 7PM news on his phone.
Sometimes he sits there long after the news ends, just staring at the roof of the car, breathing slowly, trying to feel human again.
When there is a football match, he connects his phone to the car speakers.
He used to shout at the TV with joy once, now he celebrates in silence, alone in the driveway, like a boy hiding with stolen sugarcane.
Inside the house, nobody asks where he is.
Nobody wonders why he eats dinner late.
Nobody notices that he spends more time in the car than in his own living room.
His 13–year–old son, the one he dreamt of bonding with, is always locked away in his room gaming.
The gaming console Moses bought — hoping for father–son weekends is still in its box.
His wife said the cables “make the house look untidy.”
So the box stays on the top shelf.
And the distance between father and son grows quietly, day by day.
Weekends are no different.
On Saturdays, Moses sometimes walks into a house full of chama ladies sipping tea, laughing loudly.
He greets them, forces a smile and walks back out before he blocks the doorway.
He strolls around the estate until his feet ache.
He listens to the sounds of other families in their living rooms; laughter, loud TV, playful arguments things he does not remember the last time he experienced.
When he finally returns at dusk, his younger daughter is watching cartoons on the bedroom TV.
The only other TV is in use.
So Moses sits on the edge of his bed, watching highlights on his phone, pretending he is fine.
Bills keep coming.
The mortgage letter.
The water disconnection threat.
The residents association notice.
Security warnings.
School fees.
Everyone depends on him.
Nobody checks on him.
Yet he never complains.
Because he believes a man must carry the weight silent and steady.
But silence has a cost.
Last month, he told me something that broke me.
“Bro, I feel like I’m disappearing in slow motion. I am alive, but I don’t think anyone would notice if I stopped showing up.”
This is the lonely end of a good man.
A man who gave everything.
A man who showed up every day.
A man who traded his youth, his rest, his hobbies and his peace for his family.
And somehow, without doing anything wrong, he became invisible in the story of his own life.
He is not hated.
He is not mistreated.
He is simply used and unseen which is sometimes worse.
He sits in his car after work because it is the only place he feels the world pause long enough for him to breathe.
He eats alone.
He celebrates alone.
He stresses alone.
He survives alone.
Not because he failed as a man but because good men often fade in the very homes they built
There are different kinds of relationships and everybody will do well to know this in their spirits.
1. Husband and wife are earning money and contributing equally to the family's finances
This means sharing house chores and baby care duties
2. Husband is 100% provider financially
His wife will cover the home and house chores exclusively otherwise she will work him into an early grave
3. Husband is stupendously rich.
Both husband and wife dont get to do chores
Domestic staff handles that
Wife supervises the chef and ensures the table is set in the right way
Nanny raises the children and maid helps with house chores
4. Wife is 100% provider
Husband covers the house chores and home affairs exclusively.
Otherwise he will work her into an early grave
5. 3. Wife is stupendously rich.
Both husband and wife don't get to do chores
Domestic staff handles that
Husband supervises the chef, driver and general maintenance of the house and property
Nanny raises the children and maid helps with house chores
Poor people should stop trying to impose their standard on everyone.
Our situations are not the same.
-GSW-
Get rich legitimately,or die trying!
And steer clear of damaged women.
They’ve wrecked countless men and buried endless potential.
By age 45, you should be old enough to realise this.
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