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Dedesimi... is the world ready for me yet?

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@GbengaWemimo lol

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@Cerdrick_RMCF @nicksortor Just two years before his time is up

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@BabyBobCat777 Shhhh

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@TheFigen_ @GbengaWemimo The algorithm is a fraud! The only content I get to see is right wing propaganda. Elon knows exactly what he is doing.

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@SprinterPress No one questions the emperor

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

Why I Abandoned My Wedding on Saturday (Warning: This is a long read)

Dear sir,

On the day I finally went to meet my girlfriend's parents officially, I went with a basket of fruits.
We had been dating for over a year, as at that time
We met at her place of work
I was then working with an IT company and tasked with updating the software on all her office computers

Her office detailed her to assist me on the task, and we hit it off from there
We would usually go on dates every weekend, or she would come to my flat to pay me a visit
The first time she came, she cleaned out the flat so thoroughly, even though we were just at the talking stage then
I was really shocked because I kept a clean crib

Anyway, after months of hanging out and spending almost every weekend together, she said her parents would like to meet the man in her life
I got to her parents' house at about 1 pm
I met her father in the sitting room
Her mother was in the kitchen
She was cooking especially for my visit

I greeted her father, who was a very warm and cheerful man
He had not eaten breakfast at that time
My girlfriend went into the kitchen to greet her mother and inform her that I had arrived
Her mother wore the brightest smile as she came out of the kitchen to welcome me
The small talk happened, and it was all cheery and good

Then her father said, "Mummy, what about my food?"
It was an odd question to me because my father never had to ask for food from my mother
I am thirty-two years old, and I grew up with my parents
I never heard my father ask that question before, ever.

Her mother snapped at him, "Dare, you are the one who is diabetic and cannot eat what normal people eat. So you have to be patient. We have a guest, and I am making his food.
When I am done, I will prepare your wheat."
I saw the man's neck retreat into his body as his head drooped like a very heavy mango.

Was I supposed to feel comfortable eating when my meal was prioritised above the meal of the man of the house?
The liveliness in the sitting room disappeared as my girlfriend's mother went back into the kitchen
My girlfried went with her to help with the cooking and catch up with some gist

I sat there, alone with my thoughts while casting side looks at this man who had to endure such a humiliation before his proposed son-in-law.
He didn't say another word to me
The air was putrid and choking with tension and pain
The man was hungry!
I wanted to press my phone, but I resisted the urge to
Luckily, there was a Premier League game on TV
Though muted, I fixed my eyes on the screen

An hour later, the table was set
They had prepared the best Amala, Ewedu, Gbegiri, Ogunfe and other delicacies in my honour
Her younger sister and older sister emerged from their rooms
They saw me and greeted me politely
Her mother announced that the table was set
I used my eyes to signal to my girlfriend to come to me
She did, and I whispered in her ear that I don't think it is polite for me to eat while her father was sitting in that chair without food.

She smiled and said, "Come on, his food is on the fire."
The dining table was a six-seater furniture
Her mother sat at the head of the table
Her brother and sister sat at her mother's left hand
My girlfriend and I sat to her right hand
The seat meant for her Dad was empty
We ate
Her mother asked questions about my family, my work, my plans, and so on while she filled me in about her siblings and all

When we were done eating. My girlfriend and her sister cleared the dishes
Her mother went to the kitchen and brought out her father's food
She set it at the head of the table, the seat she had previously occupied, and then informed her husband that his meal was ready.
The poor man shuffled to the dining table at 3 pm
I almost wept

When I took my leave, my girlfriend was seeing me off to my car
I asked her why her mother treated her father that way
She dismissed it as "Daddy and Mummy know how to handle each other. We children just stay out of their way most of the time"
I was not satisfied, but I swallowed my misgivings

Later that week, when she came to my flat, i raised the topic again.
She told me her father was a cheat when he had money
That he favoured his parents above his wife financially
His family was evil, and they stole his glory
He had a child outside of marriage
He lost his job about ten years ago, before then, and her mother had been the breadwinner

I saw that scene between her father and her mother play out over a hundred times whenever I was invited to their family gatherings, as we planned towards our wedding
Her mother's family members were the only ones welcome in her parents' house
Her father had no voice

Once I heard her mother say, "Dare, you stole money from my purse to give your bastard daughter.
Do you think I didn't know you went to see her yesterday at Tank and Tummy?
I was wondering where you would get transport fare and entertainment money, only to notice that twenty thousand Naira was missing in my purse
When you are sick, I pay your bills. You are diabetic and have to eat special food, I still pay. You will steal my money to go drinking with your friends despite your condition, I will turn a blind eye, and now you are stealing my money to give that wretched daughter of a leech?"

Those scenes stuck with me.
My girlfriend was all nice and warm, but I had nightmares everytime i remember the way his mother treated her father.
Yes, I was more or less a member of the family, even though we had not gotten married, but I was not raised that way.
Everything her mother was accusing her father of was more or less the things my mother could also accuse my father of.
My father cheated and had two girls with another woman outside of marriage
My mother never treated him with scorn and disdain.

My mother is not the breadwinner, but we have been through some hard times too as a family, and at some point, my mother was the one sustaining the family for a year or two after my father lost most of his investments in the Nigerian Stock Market Crash of 2009.
My mother was ever so graceful and supportive of her husband and the family.

I know I couldn't marry my mother, but I want someone like her as a wife.
My girlfriend really loves and supports me; I have no doubt that she loves me.
This is why I wanted to marry her, but her mother's influence over her is strong.
If i point out something her mother did to her father, anything, my girlfriend will defend her.

She has been through a lot.
She friend puff puff at a point to support her income to send us to school.
She went to kneel down at LASU's senate to get me admission
She helped me secure my first job with an old friend
Her mother could do no wrong in her eyes
The other children, too, were the same way, even the son.
They would take sides with their mother and gang up against their father on every issue.

Now to the reason I am walking away from this wedding.
I could write more, but I don't want it to look like I was painting my ex-girlfriend black or making excuses.
Yes, I should have broken up the engagement long before the wedding day
I did this twice
On both occasions, my girlfried will cry and tell me to be fair to her and not judge her by her mother's behaviour.

On the first occasion, her mother called me, and i refused to return her call.
Her mother then went home to insult her father to the point where the man picked up his phone, called me, and said, "You this boy, mummy said she called you, and you didn't return her call. Nobody disrespects my wife that way. Even I dare not. Did your fiancée not inform you? Don't play with fire. Return her call immediately."

The second time, we had started setting up my flat for the wedding by buying kitchenware, electronics, etc
I went shopping with my girlfriend, and we bought a lot of things.
When we were done, I noticed that everything she bought with her money was sent to her parents' house.
Flatscreen TV, Chest freezer, Fridge, etc
While all the things I bought with my money went to "our" flat.

I pointed it out to her, and she said.
"You are the man. You are doing your duty. I am a daughter, and I am doing my duty. How is this an issue?"

On both occasions, I broke up with her.
She came back begging and promised to do better.
When the engagement had gone on for a year, her mother went to the priest without our knowledge and registered us for marriage class.
When she told me, I said I didn't want to be a lackey in her mother's matriarchy and would prefer that her mother steer clear of our affair.

When we did the formal introduction, we said it would be a sitting room affair with five people from each side.
My family and I got there and met three canopies full of people.
I stomached it
I was so angry that I refused to eat that day
She said it was her mother who changed the whole plan at the last minute
I warned her that day that if it happened again, there would be no wedding.
She apologised, and we made up

Then the last straw was last Saturday.
I had sat my parents down and told them everything that was going on the day before the wedding
I told them I would have called it off, but I was hopeful my girlfriend would do right by me and stick to our agreement
My parents were very embarrassed during the introduction because the compeer kept saying, "Don't you have people? Where are the groom's friends? Where are the groom's family members etc.?" and you know how those compeers can be sometimes."

My parents listened to me as I explained myself with tears. I told them I wanted to call it off on Friday.
My father said, "Let us go there on Saturday. If we meet a crowd this time, I promise you we will leave, and we will be justified to do so."
My father then sneakily went behind me to call my girlfriend's father, and he asked him if the ten guests per family arrangement would still hold or if it had changed.

Knowing my fiancée's mum, she didn't bother carrying that man along, so the man said the agreement still holds.
When we got to their house on that Saturday, we were redirected to a hall inside a local government secretariat close to their house
By then, I had taken off my suit and rolled up my sleeves.
We rode in silence until we got there
When I saw the crowd, I started laughing
Then I saw my girlfriend and walked up to her to tell her it was over.

I have read comments from many saying I was immature, she dodged a bullet, I was this, and I was that.
I have also read comments saying I did the right thing.
I am explaining my decision to you as a form of therapy.
I am writing out my story out loud so that I can see the clarity of my own decision-making process and see for myself what I did wrong, and so on.

I will only live once, and I choose to be true to myself as I live and not pander to a crowd or sentiments.

God bless you, Brother Gbenga.

[Supernatural Life Assembly @slassembly]

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@RealSeq16 But you all made life difficult for those who don’t support your cult leader? We should just smile right?

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@WellsJorda89710 Coconut… white supremacist Christians don’t like you. Wake up for your coon induced slumber.

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

The Federal Road Safety Commission Is Asleep

The Federal Road Safety Commission is an entirely failed entity as far as its role of maintaining the smooth running of transportation and ensuring that the cars on Nigerian roads are roadworthy.

Earlier today, at about 7: 38 AM at the Sagamu Interchange bridge of the Lagos Ibadan Expressway, I found myself in a traffic jam that was not just baseless but unnecessary.

If you are closing down one part of the expressway for construction, repair, or any other purpose, the right thing to do is to place the right diversion props like arrows and signposts and traffic cones to demarcate the other road so that drivers wouldn't be left to figure it out for themselves.

I spent hours in this traffic and had to get off the road to drive through the bush from the Honeywell factory through the Sagamu interchange bridge because trailers coming from Lagos and those going to Lagos were face-to-face on the main expressway, and neither gave a quarter to the other.

The federal road safety staff members were there, helpless in the discharge of their duties.
Touts took to the road, collecting illegal tolls from those driving through the bush, while the police were not present at the scene at all.

The car crashes that happened on that expressway today, once claimed many lives as a commercial bus was torn into two by a huge trailer, which happened as a result of these avoidable problems that the FRSC was established to handle and paid huge money from the Nigerian budget to handle.

@NGRSenate @NGRPresident @NGRHouse should please look into the activities of the FRSC and help keep them on their toes so that they do their job.

It is easy to tax Nigerians, raise levies, increase the cost of obtaining a driver's licence and registering cars.
Nigerians don't exist so that we can be fleeced to death by the government.

Many of us provide our own electricity and water. We also pay our taxes without complaining
We shouldn't have to be paying for nothing.

Thank you for your attention to this matter

-GSW-

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

In my early twenties, I had a relationship with a girl in my area. She asked me to buy her a handbag one day, and I had neither the means nor the money.
So I stole one of my mother's several handbags and gave it to the girl with the hope that my mother would not notice
A few weeks later, the lady came to visit me at home, and she brought the bag
My mother saw it, but she didn't say anything
When I got back home, my mother said, "Is your visitor's name Paul?"
I said, "No ma."
Then she said, "Is my name Peter?"
I said, "No ma."
She said, "So why did you rob Peter to pay Paul?"
I kept quiet respectfully before she escalated the matter.
Funny enough, she never mentioned it again after that day

[Supernatural Life Assembly @slassembly]

Although Valentine’s Day has passed, God’s love remains everlasting and abundant in every season. ❤️

Here’s a quick recap. We hope to see you next year, whether single or with your boo, in the house of the Lord. ✨

#LoveFeast2026 #CommunityLove
#LoveInAction #SpreadLove

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@dalyricz @GbengaWemimo @Saxkae Did someone drop this people on their heads when they were young? What sort of ridiculousness is this.

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@dalyricz @GbengaWemimo @Saxkae Did someone drop this people on their heads when they were young? What sort of idiocy is this.

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@femioladehin

#slassembly #slassembly #churchesinsurulere #mondayprayers

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@slassembly @femioladehin Amen!!!

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We are beyond thrilled to unveil the theme for Supernatural Life Assembly's 6th Anniversary celebration! As we countdown to March 1st, 2026, join us in embracing the unshakeable promise of a God who

#6thAnniversary #FaithfulIsHeWhoHasPromised #Hebrews10:23 #SLAAnniversary

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Join me this midweek as we go deeper into the spiritual intelligence required to discern, align, and position yourself for divine direction. I will be teaching on the topic *“Discernment in Relationship”*!

Join expectant. Leave supernaturally aligned.

#midweekservice

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@slassembly King help me… lol