With the tweets I read from you people on here,
What happens if your partners develop health conditions after you're in a relationship or married?
OR what should your partner do SHOULD YOU develop health conditions after you're in a relationship or married?
When you break down the ROI on male attention, you'll realise it's not even that serious.
- 90% of those who approach you don't mean you well. Straight up.
- Half of the remaining 10% are nothing to write home about.
- The remaining 5% may be worth spending your time with, but from spending time with that 5%, you'll realise half of them are not what they initially present as.
So you're essentially left with maybe 2 to 3% of this 'male attention' that would truly be worth your time and effort. So why is that something to define yourself by? Make it make sense please.
Imagine how good it will feel one day to realize that you actually became the person you kept picturing in your head. Imagine if all those dreams come true.
I can't wait fr.
A lot of you never held any leadership role prior to marriage. Not your offices, not in associations you belong to, not even headboy of your primary school, so marriage is the one place you finally get to be the local champion leader you’ve been having wet dreams about.
Pathetic
“I used to feel Nigerians are really bright. We have had over 500 vacancies since 2024, and we are still struggling to find Nigerians to fill those roles.”- Moniepoint CEO
The issue isn’t that Nigerians aren’t bright, there is a clear gap between academic knowledge and the specific skills many roles require globally. That’s exactly why top companies run Graduate Trainee (GT) programs: to identify high-potential talent and train them to meet their standards, not because talent doesn’t exist.
Blaming social media or culture overlooks deeper challenges like limited access to quality training, mentorship, and practical experience. The focus should be on building and developing talent, not dismissing it.
Infidelity is such an interesting concept, you’re cheating on someone you chose to be with…like no one forced you to be with this person…it was a conscious decision you made to be with this person and now you’re cheating on them.
Conversations about consent are so important. I typed out a long tweet yesterday but deleted it because nuance gets lost here and I didn’t want to react to a clip without full context.
That said, not everything we call “rizz” is harmless. It sometimes blurs the lines of consent. We’ve seen the most intense, flirtatious episodes of the Chicken Shop Date, so intense you’re shipping them immediately. No touch, no licking of the lips with sexual undertones. We have to be mindful of the signals we normalize because pop culture mirrors and often shapes our perception of these things.
Often, men are quick to turn a professional interaction to a flirtatious one because they perceive a woman’s politeness as invitation. A woman’s flirtation is interpreted as consent to not only touch her but to go all the way with her. It is why we often hear the “if you didn’t want to…. Why did you…” argument. Even in this Delta case, you’ve seen people argue, if they didn’t want to be raped why did they come out.
Presence is not consent
Politeness is not consent
Flirtation is not consent
“you think the world is full of women dying to ride on your white horse, but those cinderella stories aren't popular anymore. in the real world, the world is filled with women who work hard and succeed on their own. so take your glass shoes, and feed them to dogs.” -choi aera
You must live with the conviction that Allah loves you, wants to forgive you, doesn't desire hardship for you, intends ease for you, will compensate you with better, gives you grief to mature you, isolates you to enjoy your company alone & place trials to humble you. Be patient.
Some relationship advice sounds wise but low-key destroys things in real life:
Never go to bed angry.
Sounds mature. But sometimes you’re tired, emotional, and saying the wrong things. Sleep can prevent damage. Not every issue needs a 2 am debate.
If they wanted to, they would.
Cute on social media. In reality? People have trauma, stress, money problems, and different love languages. Effort matters, yes but humans aren’t robots.
Don’t settle for less.
This becomes unrealistic perfection hunting. You don’t need perfection, you need compatible and willing to grow.
Your partner should be your everything.
That’s how you lose yourself. You still need friends, hobbies, personal space, and identity.
Test them to see if they care.
Silent treatments, jealousy games, fake breakups, that build distrust, not love.
Love should be easy.
Healthy love is peaceful but it still requires communication, compromise, and patience. Anything involving two humans takes work.
Never argue.
Conflict isn’t the problem. Disrespect is. Avoiding arguments just buries resentment.
If it’s meant to be, it’ll work.
Relationships don’t survive on destiny. They survive on effort.
Stay no matter what.
Loyalty is beautiful but not when you’re being disrespected, neglected, or drained.
Make them jealous so they step up.
That might trigger ego, not love.
Real advice that actually works is to choose someone who chooses you consistently and communicates like adults.