Feminism as Hatred of Men
If you look at feminism through the prism of one angry woman, who is probably just transferring the aggression of bitter encounters with the men in her world, you are going to grow resentful of the ideology. Even Chimamanda Adichie, who published a booklet titled We Should All Be Feminists, in which she argued for a world where women are afforded equal dignity and opportunity, and where both boys and girls are freed from restrictive gender expectations, has had to clarify her understanding of feminism. In a well-publicised panel discussion, she said, “I often say to young Nigerian feminists, please do not use feminism to justify your wickedness.” She observed that some of these young women were confusing feminism with nastiness.
A lot of us began as self-admitted feminists but had to take a step back when the movement became perverted in some quarters and turned into an avenue for demonising men without exception. Only a foolish man would support a movement that treats all men as complicit in the oppression of women and promotes hatred of men as some form of enlightenment. The paradox is that you cannot dismantle the patriarchal values and institutions that oppress women without forming alliances with men, because an eye-for-an-eye war between men and women is ultimately an asymmetrical one and, more importantly, a self-defeating one.
In the North, we have had generations of women’s rights advocates such as Hajiya Saudatu Mahdi, who pushed for reforms with grace, wisdom and persistence. None of these podcasting characters can match what such women have achieved in securing the representation of women at the table of opportunities. Their work has helped make it possible that, if you walk into classrooms across the North today, you may be surprised to find more women than men in some of them. They achieved this without any delusional warfare aimed at erasing the man or treating him as the natural enemy of the woman.
To reduce feminism to a debate about who gets to cook at home, when domestic arrangements have historically emerged from economic divisions of labour, family structures, culture and circumstance, is a farce long overdue for retirement. What a woman needs is her dignity and the right to live and make choices that suit her. While those choices include the choice not to cook, they also include the choice of the woman who cooks because her husband provides everything for her, the choice of the woman who prefers to stay at home, and the choice of the woman who wears a hijab. If feminism is truly about agency, then it cannot recognise a woman’s freedom only when she makes choices that conform to somebody else’s idea of liberation.
There is no world in which an advocacy built on promoting hatred of men without any exception is a mark of wisdom, but that is tragically the oil that drives much of the nastiness that qualifies as feminism these days.
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I want you to know that if your case is not an emergency. Your case can wait till the morning.
Call hours are there to manage emergency not to attend to cold cases.
Most times during call only one doctor is left to manage the work of 20 doctors that will be present in the morning. Sometimes the doctor is limited because laboratories and other services are closed.
If the doctor assess your child and say bring back in the morning. It's because 1. Your case isn't an emergency it can wait.
2. It is in the best interests of your child he may need an expert review
3. There are other life threatening case the doctor is handling.
I don't think any certified doctor will turn down an emergency without referring if he can't handle it.
Call hrs are meant for emergencies.
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Dear Zuha,
I know you are inquisitive about how our religious days fit into the modern world. It is a brilliant question. I will be breaking this down for you so you can clearly see that Islam is not a copycat. It is a complete system with its own deep, independent roots.
Firstly, you asked: if the Gregorian calendar is not real, why do Muslims pray on Friday, and is there a different Friday in the Islamic calendar?
To help you and others understand, we have to go back to history.
Pope Gregory was the one who introduced the Gregorian calendar, and he introduced it in 1582. However, when you look at Islamic history, you will see that Muslims had been observing Jumu'ah for nearly a thousand years before that Pope was even born. If you open classical books of Islamic history such as the Seerah of Ibn Hisham or The Sealed Nectar, the physical proof is right there.
These books documented the very first Jumu'ah prayer held by the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) in 622 CE. It took place in the valley of Ranuna during his migration from Mecca to Medina. In that same era, Allah revealed an entire chapter in the Quran called Surah Al-Jumu'ah, where He commanded the believers to leave their worldly trades and gather. This proves Yawm al-Jumu'ah was a lived reality in the 7th century, over 900 years before the Gregorian calendar existed in Rome.
Now, you might wonder how this connects to the Friday we know today. Frankly, the seven day weekly loop is an entirely different system from how we count solar or lunar months. It is an ancient, unbroken mathematical cycle. You do not even have to take my word for it. Non Muslim historians and sociologists agree on this.
For instance, Eviatar Zerubavel in his book The Seven Day Circle confirmed that this weekly cycle has remained completely unbroken for thousands of years across different empires. The day the Western world decided to call Friday aligns seamlessly with the sixth day of that ancient cycle.
In Arabic, the days are just numbered. Sunday is Day One. Monday is Day Two. The sixth day is Yawm al-Jumu'ah, the Day of Gathering. This means we do not pray on this day to honor a Roman calendar. That is, it was just a coincidental relationship. We pray on it because Allah established it on a divine timeline.
Secondly, you asked: why is Friday night considered so blessed, and what are you missing here?
To understand this, we have to look at the foundations of human existence. Friday goes more than just the end of the work week. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) taught us that Friday is the day Prophet Adam (peace be upon him) was created, the day he entered Paradise, the day he was sent to earth, and the day the world will end.
This is why the Prophet had a very profound routine. Every Friday during the early morning Fajr prayer, he would recite Surah As-Sajdah and Surah Al-Insan. He did this deliberately. These two chapters detail the creation of the universe, the biological creation of man, and the intense realities of the Day of Judgment. Praying these chapters every Friday morning is a divine reset. It reminds you of your origin and your final destination, both of which are tied to this specific day.
Because Friday carries the heavy weight of the end of times, reciting Surah Al-Kahf is your spiritual shield. The Surah contains stories about the ultimate trials of wealth, power, and faith. Reading it provides a divine light that protects your heart from the materialistic noise of the world and the deception of the Dajjal until the next Jumu'ah.
So by this fact, you are not missing anything. You just need to see that we are not following a Gregorian Friday. We are following a divine timeline. Don’t fret.
Allah knows best.
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