Adeola O.

Public Health Physician (MD, MSc-GH). Elevation Church #accountable

[Adeola O. @deeola9ja]

Come read with me. A reminder to pause in an ever moving world. A reminder to be quiet in a loud world. A reminder to keep learning. https://t.co/AkNADNZimV
#virtualbookclub #quiet #serene

[OloriSuperGal @OloriSupergal]

Nigerian media personality and entrepreneur, Toke Makinwa has sparked debate on social media after sharing her views on the nature of romantic relationships, arguing that relationships between men and women have always been transactional.

Expanding on her point, Toke Makinwa explained that “transactional” should not be interpreted solely in financial terms. According to her, relationships are built on mutual exchange, with each partner bringing something of value to the table while expecting something in return. She cited examples such as emotional support, companionship, protection, provision, loyalty and shared values as forms of exchange that exist in most relationships.

Her remarks have since generated mixed reactions online. While some social media users agreed that relationships naturally involve mutual benefit and responsibility, others disagreed with her use of the word “transactional,” arguing that genuine love should not be viewed as an exchange.

Source: @mentalitywithebuka

Read more on https://t.co/auz6ouL8AN

#OloriSuperGal #OSGMedia

[Jade Osiberu @jadeosiberu]

I know a number of people who didn’t marry their “spec” but are in the healthiest marriages I know. Their spec was typically whatever was culturally deemed to be at the apex of the attractiveness pyramid when they were growing up. For a lot of guys in my generation, it was the music video “vixens” from the late 90s/early 2000s Hip & R&B music videos with ‘coke bottle figures’ and or light skinned eurocentric features. When it’s time to find a partner for the very serious endeavor of sharing a life with, that “spec” is simply inadequate as a measure of compatibility and that’s understandable. The foolishness though is communicating it as though their partner somehow didn’t measure up to their “spec” instead of simply admitting that the idea of their spec was stupid all along and a young boy’s lack of wisdom of what makes a good life partner.

Communicating publicly or even privately to your partner that they weren’t your spec to begin with may seem harmless, after-all you’re just being honest. But subconsciously, it’s an ego trip for you who “settled” and for your the partner, it’s a chip they will always carry on their shoulder that to you, they aren’t quite enough. They’re missing something you had always longed for, so much so that you still consider it to be your “spec”. It’s an unnecessary mind fuck and a cruel thing to say about somebody who is sharing a life with you. No matter how flowery you are with the compliments that come after. You’ve already knocked them down several pegs.

If the point is to say your spec changed then talk about the stupidity of having a spec to begin with. Because I’ve never heard anyone in these situations talk about character attributes being their spec, it’s always superficial stuff. Or speak about how meeting your partner opened your eyes to what true beauty is. Speak in ways that elevate and affirm your partner.

[Adeola O. @deeola9ja]

Ghana, no pressure

[Adeola O. @deeola9ja]

Sha I have come to eat lunch. Giving them 1 less reason to go to therapy loool

[Adeola O. @deeola9ja]

My country club living kids have asked what we’re doing/where we’re going for the summer. Hehehe my #charmedlife

[Adeola O. @deeola9ja]

@osemagnum Curious why your response was that she shouldn’t take anything not prescribed to a question about dates and pineapples, which are regular food items.

[Adeola O. @deeola9ja]

It was 8:30am!!!! I was at the pool 35mins early on a saturday morning. Bml

[Adeola O. @deeola9ja]

As an almost 40yo high functioning doctor (in a leadership position), you’d think my 7yo would trust me to know when to get out of bed for an 8am doughnut and dive that’s a 6mins drive from the house. No, habibi, im not out of bed, its only 7:05am!!!!!

[Adeola O. @deeola9ja]

Keep up with the Joneses small o. Just do it with sense.

[Adeola O. @deeola9ja]

One time my mother and I were arguing about the importance of having children for legacy. I reminded her we don’t know her grandmother or grandfather’s name, but we know Mother Teresa’s name.

[Adeola O. @deeola9ja]

@luxemiaa Hahaaha loveeettt. I can see how rinsing is sufficient and he never realized (until puberty hits lol)

[Adeola O. @deeola9ja]

I RTed a post so I can read it later. Hehehhe

[Adeola O. @deeola9ja]

It also made me start entering birthday dates in my calendar to remind myself and loved ones that I care and remember them

[Adeola O. @deeola9ja]

@tolu_oguntayo My birthday always keeps me humble and in check cos d silence reminds me of how so many people around me dont really know me that deep- cos they dont even really know my birthday lol.

[Adeola O. @deeola9ja]

@ThrillaRilla369 Nopeeee

[Adeola O. @deeola9ja]

@Mochievous hello Mo, I’ll like to ask you a question via DM please.

[Adeola O. @deeola9ja]

Back to reading!
Come read with me

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[Adeola O. @deeola9ja]

So am I the only one who reads the last page(s) of a book so I can settle and enjoy the suspense better? This is also why ai prefer books to movies. Well, sometimes I google the end of a movie too. I don’t need inflicted anxiety in my life.

[Adeola O. @deeola9ja]

Went to the library yesterday and couldnt get a book cos I am locked i to a training currently and cant be reading novels. I almost cried, but I chest ammmm

[Pablo Castro - Psicólogo @PabloCastroDice]

Después de 7 años como psicólogo, entiendo por qué algunas personas son infelices.

No es la soledad, ni la pobreza, ni el estrés.

Son estos 3 motivos: