Adedayo

I av passion to see people and things grow from insignificant to indispensable. So intrigued about life and it's meaning and I love God.

[Tspices Kitchen @Tspiceskitchen]

As a Nigerian, this is the type of fried fish many of us grew up eating. 🥹

I love panla when it’s smoked, but when you fry till its crispy like this? 😩

e too sweet! 😭❤️

Easy recipe👇🏽

[D3VID 🐢 @DurkioWiz]

“I was dating a Nepo baby but our experience are different,she’s always claiming she’s not a Nepo, the brands she wear are expensive & I don’t know their names, she shops at M&S in the Uk, only rich people buy from there, she was trying to book a hotel & I told her I’ll take care of it when I checked the price it was 1M per night, she agreed to go to the cheaper hotel I can afford, i asked what she wanted for her birthday and she said a bracelet, I checked the price it’s 30M naira, I told her I can’t afford & she said it’s fine”

—-Nigerian man shares his experience dating a Nepo baby 🗣️

[Adedayo @deewhycrown]

Omo³ this here is serious but polite insult

[SK the Plug 🔌 🇬🇧🇬🇧 @DHKRULLAH]

I’m sorry but I’m a fan already. Oduduwa please forgive me 🤣😂 look at their faces 🤣😂🫵

[Adedayo @deewhycrown]

Now this is something positive... I hope it's not just PR

[Postsubman @Postsubman]

- Reversing the Torture of Pains Through Robotic Knee Replacement surgery

Nigeria Healthcare Sysytem gradually commanding Global Attention. We Say: To God be the Glory!!!

[A2J @qroniqls]

Ten is happening

“Someone called me to tell me that my late friend’s wife inflated her kids school fees as I have been the one paying since 3 years that my frd departed…..it was one of the the promises I made.

I felt bad because it was not that I have so much myself.

So she reminded me of the balance last week as I already gave her the permission to remind me.

When she did, I sent her the balance.

I was still having a mixed feeling as I thought the source that told me she inflated the school fee might be saying the truth or not.

So somehow, I got the school contact and then called the school to inquire.

The school gave me the fees for each class and I found out that I was under paying the school fee by 17k.

Immediately, I called her and asked that I want to see her. We met and I asked why she didn’t tell me the exact school fee of her children. She was surprised and to calm down her curiosity, I explained that I reached out to her children school and the reason why I go to know.

So she explained to me that the school fees were increased but she didn’t want to bother me since I was already doing so much.

Over there, I feel so emotional and wonder why someone would have called to tell me she was inflating the children’s fee when she was not.

It would be unfair of me if I didn’t tell her I thought. So I told her it is her elder sister who lives together with them that called me.

I showed her the number, time she called, and the text she sent.

She bursted into tears. She could not say any words.

But why will someone do that to her own sister? She didn’t even pity how she struggles to take care of the kids and bring them livelihood.

For the terms I under paid her, I balanced up.

God bless every struggling mother. May your enemies be all put to shame”

~ Oluwanishola Akeju

[Adedayo @deewhycrown]

@raycrypto_1 Is this real?

[Sam Otigba @SamuelOtigba]

If you’re Nigerian and you didn’t drop litter in your environment today, like & RT. I want to check something.

[Adedayo @deewhycrown]

@BenoHr80463 I am interested

[Adedayo @deewhycrown]

@MrCharlesky Yes you did

[Adedayo @deewhycrown]

@MrCharlesky We can oh if it's not too late

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

There is a golden rule for women who intend to get married and be successful in their marriages: NEVER TAKE MARITAL COUNSEL FROM ANOTHER WOMAN.
Not your mother, not your sister, not your aunt, not your female friends, not your pastor's wife, not your school mother, not a female podcaster, or Mother Theresa.

Men are best positioned to counsel women on marriages. Listen to your Father, your Older Brother, your Uncle, your male Pastor.

Men are the customers in a marriage, and the customer is always right.

Women are by nature designed to say one thing when they mean another.

Remember the expression, "A woman has the right to change her mind".

It means a woman can be a feminist today and go about propagating feminist views because of her current situation and condition, only for her to meet Mr. RIGHT tomorrow and begin to preach submission, true love, and marital bliss, also because of her condition.

A woman can preach celibacy and sexual purity on the altar and even go on to write books about it while she is sleeping with whoever asks on a whim.

This is not an indictment of the female gender; it is an understanding of the conditioning and evolution of the female species in adapting to life and happiness.

I have seen several ladies transition from "I hate men to I love men" within a minute.

I sat with a lady once at a restaurant, she started telling me how she is comfortable with her life as it was, and how she has decided that she does not want to get married or have a relationship because she has prioritized her freedom and wouldn't want any man to take it from her in the name of marriage

Then I said to her, "I asked you here because I plan to marry you, but hearing your views on marriage and men now, I think I will keep my ring and find a woman who is more comfortable with being a wife."

She stared at me and said, "Really? Are you pulling my legs? Show me the ring."

So, I showed her the ring.

Then she goes, "I didn't really mean all that. I have been alone for so long, and those are the things I say to myself to cope with my situation. I don't want to die of depression, and nothing kills a woman like waking up every day and waiting for a man who never arrives in the name of getting married and having a relationship. I love you, and I really don't hate men in that sense. I love marriage, and I want to be married. I know I will make a very good wife to any man who comes asking for my hand in marriage."

That is the truth.

In a world where so many women are turning to dildos and their fingers in order to get a bit of sexual release, coping with the scarcity of men requires that you tell yourself things like "I don't need men", "I am fine without men", "What is man to me?" "Men are evil", "Men are scum, "Men are bad", "Men are the devil," and so on.

It is the same principles that make a poor man say "Money is evil", "Money is bad". "Money is demonic", "Money corrupts". He is saying it, but he is looking for how to make money and become financially stable.
When he becomes financially stable, he stops saying things like that and begins to preach "financial prosperity", "Secure the bag", "Money is freedom", "Money is power".

In both examples, the initial position is a coping mechanism. A way to deal with the harsh realities of life due to the prevailing circumstances, the woman and the poor man are dealing with at the time.

I counsel young ladies to keep away from WhatsApp groups where there are ladies like them who refer to themselves as friends.

These folks are competing with you. You are all single, of marriageable age, and you sit in a WhatsApp group bashing men, discussing each other's relationships, dreams, and aspirations.
It is the case of crabs in a bucket; one will not allow the other to escape

You are all selling the same product.

It is true that there are many customers, but until you secure your own man, every eligible man out there is a potential husband to every woman in that group.

You don't listen to your competitors in a capitalist economy, you listen to your customers. Customer is KING!

I know a lot of single ladies who strut about as single and proud in church, but are side chicks in secret. I didn't say I know one or two or three. I know several!

If you give them the microphone to speak to young women, they will say all the right things that the church has programmed them to say, but when they are not in church, they do the things they believe they have to do to cope with life

Some years ago, when I was younger, I used to call it out and judge and get irritated by such 'women". As I matured, however, I realised that for many people in this world, where they are and where they are going or aiming to be are two different realities.

There is a place called "In transit."

They are on their way to a destination, but they are not at the destination yet. While they are still on the journey, they define where they are in their evolution and reality, and they talk about it because that is their current situation.

A single man says, "I am better off alone. I don't need a woman in my life. Women are a liability. Women are a bag of trouble. Who needs a wife? And then he will go on and share examples of all the promiscuous women and the rate of divorce and all the wickedness women have done to men, which he could recount."

The following month, he gets a job, and the month after that, he comes to you to introduce his pregnant girlfriend. He says he wants to get married and begins to talk about the woman being the best thing that has happened to his destiny.

His opinion when he was in transit becomes a stark contrast to his opinion when he arrives at his destination.

This is the way of life for most people.

The advantage men have when it comes to marriage is the same advantage a customer has when it comes to purchasing a product.

Since the man is the one doing the finding, he has the advantage of choice. He knows what other men like. He knows what other men fear. He knows what he admires in the women he sees with other men. He knows what would sell a woman to a man. He also has the advantage of word of mouth and the male relationship bond; he can easily recommend a lady to another man, and the man would take his word for it that the woman is good for him.

The person to listen to and to take counsel from as a woman who wants to get married and stay happily married is a man.

A man knows the kind of woman he wants even when he has nothing to his name. A woman may claim she knows the kind of man she wants, but she can only pick from the kind of men that come calling on her.

She can want Michael Jordan and find herself attracting the likes of Kevin Hart, Aki, Pawpaw, and Portable. They most likely won't come to her all at once. If they came at once, she could size them up and pick the best according to her preference, but if they came one after the other with six-month or one-year intervals in between their calling on her.

She most likely would dismiss Kevin Hart because he is too short compared to Michael Jordan, and then dismiss Aki for the same reason. By the time Pawpaw comes, she will begin to get the message that this is most likely the kind of men her personality is attracting, and give him a listening ear.

This is where the term "Don't be picky" comes in. This term does not apply to men because they are the king of choice. It applies to women because they get to pick from the options that are made available to them.

Life is in phases.
I was once an atheist, then I became an agnostic, then I became a nominal Christian, then I became a born-again Christian

The same way a lady can start out as a lover girl, then become an angry girl after one or two heartbreaks, then become a bitter girl after another heartbreak, then become a feminist or a misandrist, but then she could meet a man who loves her right and fall in love and get married and have children.

It is life.

All her experiences on her journey to her final destination are valid. The things she said when she was angry at men, bitter at men, hated men, and then found love and got married were all part of her evolution.

The problem, however, is that while many ladies are on the journey, they will set up microphones and start dishing out advice to other ladies.

Someone will start preaching celibacy, and then she will get pregnant. Another person will be preaching sexual purity while she is a side chick. Someone will be preaching abstinence and then get sick from committing abortion.

Don't put yourself under undue pressure to be an example to others while your life is yet unfolding. Don't preach about your journey and try to justify where you are or define your coping mechanism as your destination.

Just live.

Life is an adventure; we are all unfolding new chapters every day.

Those who once preached against divorce learnt bitterly after their own divorce that life is not a journey that can be predicted halfway.

Many who once preached against remarriage after divorce, got divorced, and are now remarrying or are already remarried

Many who once preached sin and judgment have evolved and now preach Christ and eternal life

Misandrists are getting married and fiercely defending and protecting their husbands and families.

In all these, the constant and logical pillars of truth on marriage are men.

If, as a woman, you want to get married and stay married, listen to men.

-GSW-

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

The Proxy Man II

There’s a silence that sets in around the age of thirty-five for the “successful” woman. She has been told she has all the time in the world. She can freeze her eggs and chase the C-suite.

But technology can’t negotiate with the soul.
I know a woman — forty-one, runs a team of thirty, bought her flat at thirty-three — who told me last year she had been dreaming about a house she grew up in. Not the house. Just the garden. She couldn’t explain it. She didn’t try very hard.

The silence isn’t about eggs or timelines. It’s the moment she realizes she has been so focused on building a life that’s impressive that she forgot to build one that is inhabited. The fertility industry sells a workaround for biology. Nothing sells a workaround for years spent becoming someone she didn’t intend to be.

She doesn’t grieve loudly. High-achieving women rarely do. She grieves on Sunday evenings, in the specific weight of an empty flat she designed perfectly. In the dreams she quietly retired as childish, then quietly missed.

The tragedy isn’t that she ran out of time. The tragedy is that she was told time was the only variable that mattered — and believed it long enough for it to become true.

Emotional Infertility
It isn’t just about biological constraints. It’s about the psychological environment.

A 2015 study by Bertrand, Kamenica, and Pan found that when a woman out-earns her husband, divorce becomes significantly more likely — and the psychological cost falls disproportionately on her. Women promoted to top-tier positions face significantly elevated divorce rates compared to men in equivalent roles within three years of promotion.

She has become so successful at being a man that she has rendered herself emotionally unavailable because the performance of invulnerability has no off switch.

The Neurological Colonization
Her brain has been recalibrated by an environment that treats every interaction as a potential threat. That’s not a personality. That’s an adaptation.

Our digital economy rewards the Hunter and punishes the Nurturer. The system selects for speed, control, and detachment. Her capacity for empathy doesn’t register as a feature. It registers as friction.

Chronic high-performance stress floods the brain with cortisol. Sustained cortisol exposure restructures the amygdala — the brain’s threat-detection center — making it progressively more sensitive and harder to quiet.

The brain, optimized for survival, begins reading neutral signals as threatening. A partner’s silence becomes a negotiation. An unplanned evening becomes a loss of control. She is not overreacting. Her brain has been rewired.

This is why the traits that make you effective at work — speed, control, detachment — begin to show up in conversations that were never meant to feel like negotiations.
The adaptation works. Until it doesn’t.

This is not just a critique of women.

Men created the vacancy the Proxy Woman filled.
Most men today are competence-bankrupt — not in professional terms, but in the terms that matter for intimacy. They’ve abdicated emotional leadership.

Outsourced decisiveness. Confused splitting the bill with being a partner. They show up without direction, without presence, without the grounded authority that makes a woman’s armor feel optional.

When a woman meets a man like this, her biology goes into survival mode. She becomes the man because someone has to.

The Proxy Man didn’t appear out of ideology. She appeared because dependency on men who weren’t dependable was a worse risk.

Men who want women to soften need to first ask: have I given her anything solid enough to land on?

Men are mourning the demise of true femininity
When a wife or fiancée or girlfriend or partner comes home in Boss Mode, the man feels a vacancy where a woman should be.
He isn’t looking for a second business partner. He’s looking for the feminine energy that makes his labor feel like it means something.
He rarely says it. He barely understands it himself. But the vacancy is real.

-GSW-

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

Telling the truth is easy. You simply access a memory and describe it. Your brain is in “read-only” mode.

Lying, however, is exhaustive work. To tell a successful lie, the human brain has to run a marathon. The liar must:
1. Invent a story that is plausible.
2. Ensure the story doesn’t contradict what the listener already knows.
3. Monitor their own body language to look “normal.”
4. Monitor your reaction to see if you are buying it.
5. Suppress the truth (which is trying to bubble up naturally).
This is what psychologists call cognitive load. A liar’s brain is operating at 99% CPU usage. An honest person is coasting at 20%.
Because the liar is maxed out mentally, they have very little processing power left for the unexpected. If you ask standard questions (“Did you do it?”, “Where were you?”), they are fine because they rehearsed those answers.
But if you ask questions that increase the cognitive load, their system crashes. Here are three specific questions designed to break the script.

Question 1: The Timeline Lock
“Walk me through the 30 minutes before this happened, step-by-step.”
When people invent a lie, they focus on the “Main Event.” If an employee is lying about why they missed a deadline, they have a rehearsed script for the excuse itself (“My internet went down”). They rarely rehearse the boring, mundane details leading up to it.
Why it works:
Our memories are associative streams. When you tell the truth, you remember the context: making coffee, sitting down, opening the laptop, feeling the room get cold.
When you lie, you have a script. Scripts are linear and efficient.

What to watch for:
Look for “The Bridge.” A liar will try to skip the unscripted time as fast as possible.
They will use phrases like:
“I was just doing normal stuff, and then…”
“Nothing really happened, and then…”
“So anyway, I was there, and…”
If they bridge over the 30 minutes prior with a generic sentence, that is a red flag. An honest person can usually tell you exactly what they were doing just before the crisis occurred.

Question 2: The Sensory Curveball

“In that moment you just described, what could you hear in the background?”
This is the question that usually breaks the script.
Why it works:
A liar builds their story in 2D — facts and events. “I was at the coffee shop.”
A truth-teller remembers in 3D — sights, sounds, smells, and feelings. “I was at the coffee shop, and the grinder was incredibly loud.”
When you ask a liar about sensory details (smell, sound, lighting), you are forcing them to generate new data on the fly. Their brain, already at high cognitive load, has to pause to “render” this new part of the world.

What to watch for:
The Stall: They will repeat the question to buy time. “What did I hear? Hmm, what did I hear…”
The Attack: Because they are frustrated, they might snap at you. “Why does that matter? I’m telling you what happened!”
The Void: They will give an answer devoid of detail. “Just… coffee shop sounds.”
An honest person often has an immediate, specific sensory memory. “Actually, it was weirdly quiet,” or “There was a construction crew outside.”

Question 3: The Hypothetical Evidence
“If I were to check the (logs/cameras/records) from that time, is there any reason they wouldn’t match what you just said?”
You don’t need to actually have the evidence. You just need to introduce the possibility of the evidence.

Why it works:
This triggers a psychological state known as “bargaining”.
When a liar thinks an objective fact (a camera, an email timestamp, a GPS log) might contradict them, they panic. They realize their subjective story might collide with reality.
To protect themselves, they immediately try to create an “escape hatch.”

What to watch for:
The Hedge.
An honest person is defiant. If you say, “What if I check the logs?”, they will say, “Go ahead. It’ll prove I’m right.”
A liar will start to soften their statement to allow for error:
“Well, I mean, I’m pretty sure that’s what happened, but I might have been five minutes off.”
“I think that’s right, but the camera angle might be weird.”
“I’m not saying 100%, but to the best of my memory…”
The moment you hear the Hedge, you know they are unsure of their own lie.

Conclusion — The Goal Isn’t a Confession
If you use these questions and spot these indicators — the Bridge, the Stall, or the Hedge — do not slam your hand on the table and yell, “Gotcha!”

Real life isn’t a movie. The goal isn’t to extract a tearful confession; it is to get to the truth so you can make a decision.
When you see the cognitive load spike, simply slow down.
Ask more open-ended questions. S
ay, “Help me understand that part again.”
Usually, the person will realize the mental effort isn’t worth it, and the truth will quietly surface.
Deception is heavy.
The truth is light.
If you know how to ask the right questions, you don’t need to be a human lie detector — you just need to let them drop the weight.

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

Moral Disengagement on Social Media

If moral disengagement had a modern amplifier, it would be the internet.

People on X would latch on to other people and insult them, curse them, "drag them", say all sorts of things to them that they could never dare say or do if they are looking at the person face to face

In 2004, psychologist John Suler described what he called the online disinhibition effect — the tendency for people to say and do things online they would never consider face-to-face.

Anonymity removes accountability.

Physical distance dulls empathy. The absence of immediate social feedback eliminates emotional consequences.

You don’t see the hurt in someone’s eyes. You don’t feel the tension in the room. There is no pause for reflection.

As a result, moral brakes weaken. Cruelty escalates faster. Judgment becomes effortless. Responsibility dissolves into the crowd.

The psychological mechanisms Bandura identified didn’t change — only the environment did.

The internet didn’t make people worse. It simply removed the friction that once kept their better instincts engaged.

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

What Makes Moral Disengagement Dangerous is that it rarely feels like wrongdoing. It doesn’t scream immorality.

It feels reasonable.
It feels justified.
It feels normal.

You see it when you scroll past suffering because you’re tired. When you stay silent to avoid conflict. When you profit, even passively, from systems you know are unjust.

In these moments, nothing feels wrong. No alarm goes off in your conscience. The actions, or inactions, are small, subtle, and justified.

That’s why people are often shocked in hindsight when they look back and realize the harm they enabled.

The danger isn’t that humans have no morals. It’s how easily and quietly we learn to put them aside, while still convincing ourselves we are good people.

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

Dear CHRISTIAN,

Instead of asking, “Am I a good person?” try asking something more difficult:

Where AM I justifying actions, words, or inactions that I would have judged harshly five years ago?

Is it at work, where compromises seem unavoidable? In relationships, where staying silent feels easier than conflict?

In the words I use about others, or in the things I choose to overlook?

The difference between good and bad people isn’t about groups or beliefs. It exists in every human heart, changing with circumstances, pressure, and the stories we tell ourselves.

Awareness of that shift is the first step toward responsibility.

No one is completely immune to justifying harmful behavior, but there are ways to protect yourself.

Slow down moral decisions.

Speed favors justification and reflection restores agency.

Use concrete language.

Say what’s actually happening, not the sanitized version.

Personalize consequences. Ask who bears the cost of your choices.

Question authority. Respect it, but never outsource your conscience.

Notice discomfort. Guilt is often a signal, not an enemy.

Stay close to people different from you. Distance breeds distortion.

Most importantly, remember this:

The goal isn’t to prove you’re a good person. The goal is to stay awake to the ways you might not be.

The most unsettling realization isn’t that humans are capable of terrible things; it’s that we can do them without noticing.

Moral failure often operates quietly, wrapped in reasons, wearing the mask of normality.

The moment you believe you’re immune is when you become most vulnerable.

Awareness doesn’t make you perfect; it makes you responsible.

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

Moral Disengement III

“I Was Just Following Orders.”

This may be the most dangerous mechanism of all.

During the famous Human Rights Violations Investigations Commission, popularly called the Oputa Panel sittings in Lagos

Hamza Al-Mustapha and Sergeant Rogers consistently claimed that as soldiers they were trained to obey the last command, and as a result of this, all the assassinations credited to them were orders that they were just following.

They argued that they had no fault and cannot be judged as regards motives and morals because they were simply carrying out instructions given to them by a superior officer

They believed the authority figure bore the moral weight of their actions, not them.

That same logic appears everywhere: in corporate scandals, bureaucratic failures, and institutional abuse.

People reassure themselves by saying things like, “I was just doing my job,” or “I didn’t make the rules.”

But systems don’t act — people do.

Joab got a letter from David that he should place Uriah at the forefront of the battle, knowing full well the young man would most likely die as a result of this instruction.
He obeyed it because he was just following orders

Every harmful system depends on countless small acts of compliance.
No one wakes up intending to cause harm. They choose not to question, not to resist, and not to take responsibility for what their obedience enables.

[Tope A teacher & A Farmer I Will Never Give Up 💪) @Tope_Orus]

According to the mother: This happened today at around 4:00am. My son woke up saying his chest was hurting and that he needed to see a doctor. Normally I try to avoid rushing to the hospital because I know how he can be, but this time I decided to take him anyway.

On the way there he actually fell asleep, and for a moment I even thought of turning back. But something told me to keep going, so I drove straight to casualty at Groote Schuur Hospital.

Nothing could have prepared me for what I was about to witness in the next two hours.

About two hours later, a woman came rushing into casualty screaming in a way that cuts straight through your heart. She was carrying her little daughter, who looked about 7 or 8 years old. The pain in that mother’s cry was something I will never forget.

Doctors rushed to help, and after a few minutes they came back and told the mother that her daughter was gone.

The mother let out the most heartbreaking scream. Everyone in that casualty fell silent.

But then something incredible happened.

Instead of collapsing, the mother suddenly started praying loudly.

“Lord remember me! Lord remember me! It’s me your servant. I have served you faithfully. You are not a man that you should lie!”

At that moment I found myself sitting there crying, and I didn’t even realise when I started praying with her. She began praying in tongues, and I joined in.

About an hour and a half later, the doctors came back again. The mother saw them and immediately asked, “Is she alive?”

And the doctor said something I will never forget:

“Yes… we’re preparing a bed for her in ICU.”

The entire room froze.

The mother screamed again, but this time it was different. She started thanking God, shouting “Jesus, you are faithful!”

What amazed me even more is that she didn’t run to go see her daughter immediately. She stayed there for another hour, still praying and thanking God.

All I can say is this: I recommend Jesus. I truly do.

Because today, with my own eyes, I witnessed something that felt like a miracle — the power of prayer.

There’s probably only a 1% chance that woman will ever read this, but if she does, I want her to know that she changed my life today.

I will never forget this day.

#Copied

[𝐂𝐡𝐫𝐢𝐬 𝐏𝐨𝐩𝐨𝐨𝐥𝐚 @ThePChris]

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