please teach your daughters that having a voice is more important than being nice. having a backbone is more important than being palatable. having standards is more important than being liked. and having self respect is more important than being chosen.
I hope I never become too busy to notice the small evidence that life is going right. A good conversation. A safe journey home. A meal you enjoyed. A laugh you didn't plan. Those moments count too.
The older I get, the more I realize there’s no easier or cheaper path. You’re paying one way or another: money, time, mental health, something. You truly can’t avoid the cost, you can only choose which currency you pay in.
I hate overriding my intuition and having to deal with the consequences that I wouldn’t have experienced if I had listened to my intuition in the first place.
So if you’re paying either way, pay for what you actually want. Take the expensive path or the slow path if that’s the one you actually want. Don’t pick something because it’s cheap. Pick it because it’s right for you.
read something from atomic habits this week that has been stuck in my mind:
"It doesn't make sense to continue wanting something if you're not willing to do what it takes to get it. If you don't want to live the lifestyle, then release yourself from the desire. To crave the result but not the process is to guarantee disappointment."