“I want a husband.”
No, you want the aesthetic of being chosen. You want the ring, the photos, the title, and the soft-launch captions.
You don’t want to forgive when you’re angry, communicating when you’re hurt, apologizing when you’re wrong, serving when it’s inconvenient, and staying accountable when your ego wants to win.
You don’t want a husband.
Half of yall aren’t ready to be a wife.
Once you cut people off, make peace with the stories they’ll create in your absence. People will always try to fill your silence with whatever protects their ego. They’ll call you fake, difficult, arrogant, bitter, or changed because accountability is too expensive for people who are addicted to access. Let them talk. Your peace doesn’t need a press release. Your absence is the explanation.
Men think women are everywhere until you get serious about settling down:
-The pretty one has terrible character
-The religious one is boring and poor in bed
-The educated one is bossy and disrespectful
-The curvy one is lazy and entitled
-The “submissive” one has no backbone when real pressure hits
-The independent one will never follow your lead
-The virgin one is emotionally immature and insecure
-The “family girl” comes with toxic parents and drama
There is no perfect woman.
Every option has flaws. Your job is to choose the one whose flaws you can live with and whose strengths actually serve your mission.