ngl,this year really woke me up. I see clearly now,who's for me and never was. I learned to set boundaries, stop overextending myself and stop pouring into cups that don't pour back. it's not easy,but it's necessary and peaceful
once you cut people out of your life, you need to become very comfortable with them talking bad and making things up about you. bc they will fill your silence and your absence with stories that make them feel better about losing access to you. people rarely take accountability when it’s easier to paint you as the villain.
People can argue otherwise all they want. But if you’re waiting outside of nightclubs hoping to take a drunken woman home with you (a complete stranger). Knowing damn well she’s unable to give full coherent consent, then you are very much a predator.