You cannot make sense to a person who only comprehends things at their own level of perception. No matter how much you explain, argue, or try. Save your energy.
As independent as I am, I love to be babied. Acts of service are how I feel loved. I don't care about money. Just lighten my load. I'm too prideful to ask for help, but when you take the initiative to take things off my plate, I know you really see me.