quando me pedem um conselho mas eu sou o amigo que apoia divórcio, aborto, cortar laços com a família, homossexualidade, outras religiões, se demitir etc
One of the great ironies of sex work is that the better you are at it, the less anyone realizes how much skill it requires.
People see beauty, charisma, sexuality, fantasy. They don't see the years spent developing emotional intelligence, negotiation skills, risk assessment, financial literacy, marketing expertise, and the ability to manage wildly different client needs while maintaining your own sense of self. It is an *extraordinary* degree of psychological literacy that sex work requires.
Understanding what someone wants is often the easy part. Understanding what they're actually communicating, what they need to feel safe, where their boundaries are, and how to navigate the difference between fantasy and reality is an entirely different skill set.
And all of that happens while managing our own boundaries, safety, emotional resources, and business interests.
That's not effortless intimacy or easy money, it is highly skilled labor. (And that is precisely why we should all be charging more. )
if you’re a finsub feeling guilty about it just remember there are men who get off on seeing women hurt, tortured and abused.. meanwhile you’re on the opposite end and get off on worshipping women and giving them your money. honestly give yourself some credit. hold your head high buddy, you should be proud of yourself. keep going.