People on here will ask “Is it too late to start over at 28?” and everyone will reply “Yikes. Hate to break it to you gramps but it was over for you 10 years ago.” Meanwhile my 63 year old neighbor is taking the bar exam because he has a list of pharma companies he plans to sue
This is free advice from an expensive psychologist. If you’re an anxious person, do everything for fun. Go to a job interview for fun. Submit documents for fun. Start a blog for fun. Anxiety feeds on importance. Don’t make everything a matter of life and death.
People can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves and if you carry a lot of depth and have the inner world of an ocean it will feel like drowning to anyone who’s never left the shore
the older i get the more i realize how much of life is just increasing your surface area for luck.
go outside more. travel when you can. try new cafés. wander into museums. take a different route home. hike a new trail. see a city you’ve never seen. bring a notebook. talk to strangers. ask better questions. start something small on the side.
in other words, give yourself more chances for something unexpected to happen.
you can literally just do things.
and strangely enough, the more you do, the more luck seems to find you.
Going to leave you with this tonight:
The best thing you can do for yourself is actively increase your surface area for luck to hit you.
Go outside, travel more, go to new cafes, museums, events, take a new route home, go for hikes, see cities, countrysides, take your notebook, speak to people, ask questions, start businesses - go on more side quests.
You can literally just do things, and the more you do, the more serendipity and synchronicity will find you.
Night gang.
someone once told me something along the lines of “you’ve gotta do your best everyday, but remember that your best is going to look different every day”. & it’s one of the most healing things i’ve heard to this day be it reminds me not to put too much pressure on myself.
if you choose A WORKING WOMAN, you must accept that she CANNOT manage a house full time by herself. if you choose A HOUSEWIFE who can take care of and manage the household completely, you need to accept that she DOES NOT MAKE MONEY and you will have to provide for everything. if you choose a SUBMISSIVE WOMAN, you should accept that she DEPENDS on you to lead. if you choose to be with a STRONG WOMAN, you should accept that she is STUBBORN and has her own thoughts and ways
I used to think I was introverted because I like being alone, but it turns out I really like being at peace with myself and my surroundings, and I'm extremely extroverted with people who bring me comfort and happiness.
You don’t see neighborhoods like this anymore because most young parents don’t own homes. Less than 5% of mortgage holders are under 30 in major metros, and the average homeowner is over 50.
That’s why most neighborhoods or suburbs feel empty, they’re owned by older people whose kids are grown, while younger families are renting apartments & priced out of the communities.
You’re not big enough or powerful enough to cancel out God’s plan for your life. He factored in human error when he set you on your path. Take comfort in that.