I need my fellow men to stop fantasizing about this scenario and actually work on yourselves to be good enough by your own standards to date someone. Why wait for this to happen when you can start working on your own growth and success now?
Friendships take work and patience and understanding, BUT it’s also okay to say, “This is not what I want out of the friendship.”
If you’re the type who does want more communication than someone is willing to give or even capable of giving, it doesn’t make you a bad person to not be invested in a friendship that doesn’t give you that.
It’s a balancing act, of course. We *are* adults and not everyone has the time, energy, or spoons to reply right away or hold a conversation.
Give people grace, but don’t feel guilty and force yourself to stay where you aren’t happy.
You don’t even necessarily have drop friendships if they’re not what you are looking for.
There are levels of friendship.
Say, for example, you get along with someone. When you do have conversations, they’re fun. But maybe you feel they don’t put in as much effort as you’d like to maintain the type of friendship you want.
You can stay friends with them without trying to pursue a deeper bond or friendship. Friendly acquaintances, casual friendships, distant friends—all are valid.
We don’t have to go all or nothing.
—You really can't give to someone what you don't have for yourself first. You'll be exhausted and will never feel like you're enough when you're going through a rough patch. So before anyone else, be happy and love yourself! 💖 And it would be effortless to give it back tenfold.
This is why it's so important to be able to serve yourself first (for both men and women). Tomorrow is never promised for anyone including your relationships. It's important that you can give yourself the love that you desire first before anyone else instead of depending on them—
namorar um homem assim é perigoso demais porque deixa marcas
eu terminei com ele em 2022 e sofri muito por ter perdido aquilo e desejava encontrar alguém que me tratasse parecido ou melhor. Tive 2 namorados depois e nenhum conseguiu atingir os padrões, e eu me sentia péssima pq
—It's so nice and ideal to be loved exactly the way you want to be, but you also need to be okay without it. Be the best lover to yourself. Be whole with or without a spouse. Learn to regulate your own emotions and keep discovering things that keep you going—
Yearning for a love where we both know how and where to find each other if either gets lost. Mending each other when we are broken. Brave through the tough world together.
Exactly how we want it.
One day... ❤️🩹
I know you're scared. I am too. But I'd rather hold your trembling hand in mine as we navigate love together than miss out on even the chance to be with you. If we get lost, at least we'll have each other.
Why are twitter mfs so miserable? I get that irl streaming has some form of notoriety, but she's literally just eating a burger? enjoying life? and the camera was pointed at her face???
Same mfs be speaking out against bullying but can't mind their own business.