Normalize asking your friend first and foremost wether they want to know any updates about their ex (partner/spouse/boss/friend) before suddenly jumping into this:
βI saw/run to/heard about your ex-β¦ the other day, and you know whatβ¦β
If the answer is no, keep it to yourself.
Not exposing myself to News too much is healthy for my mental health, I guess.
If foreigners think living in Indonesia is a blessing, then Iβm blessed.
So I learn to loosen, to soften my hold,
to trust that their strength is quiet and bold.
To care is a gift, to step back is, tooβ
not every grief belongs to you.
Grief moves in waves, but not always our ownβ
we feel it in echoes, in voices, in stone.
Some let it settle like dust in the air,
some fold it away like a coat they wonβt wear.
Please,
do not judge yourself.
Be the kindest friend
to your own soul.
You are delicate,
woven from generations,
a thread in the fabric
of all who came before.
When you lie to yourself,
you dishonor them.
When you break yourself,
you break them too.