@Sophielittle When you're ready to try, pick a position where you're in control (and partner knows not to push until you're moving in both directions)... usually doggy possibly with him against a wall so he doesn't have to resist to stay still. 1,2,3 (or 4?) fingers before real thing.
@Valentalae So many thoughts going with that fantasy. You can come to the bakery, but you can't taste anything. Perhaps you can taste something burnt. You can watch dom(me) eat and perhaps clean up crumbs. You can eat an already chewed version of your favorite treat? Edging with pastries.