Actually, in order to become a better person, you must first realize how horrible you really are. not in the dramatic sense, but in the quiet ways you sabotage yourself, repeat unhealthy patterns, hurt people who care about you, or tolerate what wounds you. you cannot grow if you keep pretending you're innocent in the story you created.
sometimes people think you’re naive, but you’re really choosing mercy. you notice patterns, tone shifts, and inconsistencies, yet you still allow their dignity. if you spoke everything you’ve observed, the truth would dismantle egos that are only stable because you stay quiet.
I think one of the healthiest things I've learned is that you should let people reintroduce themselves to you, even your closest friends. Let them reintroduce their soul. Familiarity shouldn’t be a cage. Love them for who they are now, not just who they were then.