People with childhood trauma tend to have fast and intense friendships relationships. Desperate for the love they didn’t get from a parent, they attach quickly— often missing red flags. Healing is about slowly building trust over surface intimacy.
The quickest way to understand if you were raised in a codependent or emotionally enmeshed family:
You’re terrified of saying no. You think other people’s crisis are your responsibility. You neglect your own needs to be liked.
It’s a trauma response to hyper focus on what people say or think. At one time, this is how you stayed safe in an unpredictable environment. You learned to notice every shift in mood or behavior because you faced the consequences of those shifts.