Dr Sandip Deshpande

Psychiatrist, Sexual & Relationship therapist, loves life...

[Anshul Khandelwal @akhandelwal]

Sexual health is India’s silent crisis—shrouded in shame & stigma. I’ve been helping @allohealth_care to make it mainstream. We’re launching India’s 1st Sexual Health Week. Join the movement. #KhulKeBolo . Let’s talk. Finally.

[Dr Sandip Deshpande @docsandypande]

@timesofindia your front page advert today of #comfort is giving me a headache and causing nausea. You’ve done these campaigns before (with a detergent company I think) with similar results. Please stop this !

[Anirudh Kala @anikala]

Be safe, feel secure in therapy and counselling

Terms counselling, psychotherapy, CBT and therapy (and counsellor, psychotherapist and therapist) are often used interchangeably but should not be. It confuses people
Counselling is directive approach mostly addressed to here and now situations. It often includes directions on how to sort out relationship difficulties which are ongoing but can include other ongoing difficulties like with colleagues at work.
Psychotherapy is based on the premise that roots of current psychological problems lie in conflicts in distant past, often during childhood and psychotherapy is to that extent exploratory in nature. It takes longer than counselling and the aim is slowly building an insight enabling the client to see his specific present problems in the light of conflict often forgotten. It is a much less directive process. It is more of a nudging rather than 'do this or do that'.
Cognitive Behaviour Therapy aims to correct distorted cognitions like in persons with mild depressions, OCD and phobias.
'Therapy' is a generic term which obfuscates more than it clarifies. It can include all of the above but also things as diverse as music therapy and aroma therapy which are relaxing but have no evidence base for sustained improvement.
Therapy and counselling are formal treatment processes and should happen in formal treatment settings.
Friends/ family members cannot be objective, they are too invested and they cannot do counselling. Their advice is is friendly advice which can be helpful in a crisis, but must lead to formal treatment.
With counselling and therapy becoming fashionable terms there is a mushrooming of people trying to do it since there is no clear cut regulatory frame work in place. The ease of online counselling has muddied the field further. Do your research, find a qualified person who has a proper office. It is a good idea to have at least first few sessions in person, in an office, before shifting online.
Ostensibly, to destigmatise the process and to make you feel 'comfortable' people are even willing to talk to you in cafes. Please donot do it. The person sitting in front of you is probably less qualified than you and certainly has no idea about what psychological treatment is. Also it is not safe. You do not want a proven boundary violator to treat you and have access to your intimate secrets.
Informal psychological treatments, with therapists becoming friends belong only in the movies and are a scam. Professional psychotherapy discourages any interaction between a psychotherapist and a client outside a pre-fixed session, except in an emergency.
Professional counsellors and psychotherapists are there to steer you at a vulnerable time in your life with your interests paramount. But they are not your friends in the usual sense. Those you have already tried.

[Dr Sandip Deshpande @docsandypande]

@amitandon attended your show at Bangalore yesterday. It was laughter riot. Clean comedy, very relatable and fresh content. Thanks for a memorable evening for all of us 😊

[Vala Afshar @ValaAfshar]

Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. 

And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. 

Do not settle. —Steve Jobs

[Satish Acharya @satishacharya]

Messi! #Argentina #FIFAWorldCup #Messi𓃵

[Dalai Lama @DalaiLama]

Our lives depend on hope. If you have hope, you'll be able to overcome problems you face. But if you're without hope, your difficulties will increase. Hope is linked to compassion and loving kindness. In my life, I've faced all sorts of difficulties, but I never gave up hope.

[Vala Afshar @ValaAfshar]

To improve your writing, read more.
To improve your thinking, write more.
To improve your storytelling, present more.
To improve your energy, rest more.
To improve your understanding, teach more.
To improve your network, give more.
To improve your happiness, smile more.

[Dr Sandip Deshpande @docsandypande]

#WorldSexualHealthDay #AlloSexualHealthGuide #LetsNormaliseSexualWellness #SexualWellbeing #SexualWellness

[Dr Sandip Deshpande @docsandypande]

This #WorldSexualHealthDay, join the conversation and let's break the stigma around sexual health, together! Literacy and Sexual Literacy are not the same. Check it out, take the sexual health awareness quiz https://t.co/oDc72P4LRQ

[Vala Afshar @ValaAfshar]

Advice to my younger self

1 do not take health for granted
2 equity is wealth, do not rent your time
3 protect your time
4 only spend what you have
5 you are not your job
6 value friendships
7 networking is about giving
8 forgive first
9 read and write more
10 know when to leave

[baadal nanjundaswamy @baadalvirus]

😍😍#nammabengaluru

[Dr Sandip Deshpande @docsandypande]

@wendyburn Congratulations Dr Burn.

[Vala Afshar @ValaAfshar]

Be a good person. But do not waste time trying to prove it.

[VINISHA UMASHANKAR 🌴 (Indian/Tamilian) 🌴 @VinishaOfficial]

Prince William highly praising my #innovation, the Solar Ironing Cart on #BBC #Newscast (14-10-21) with @adamfleming. @KensingtonRoyal @EarthshotPrize @COP26 @PMOIndia @narendramodi @UKinIndia @AlexWEllis @ukinchennai @oballhatchet @CMOTamilnadu @Guidance_TN @Collector_TVM 🙏🇮🇳🇬🇧

[devi y @hype_atia]

How Myntra decided to send me nine small teacups

[baadal nanjundaswamy @baadalvirus]

#covidcampaign

[Dr Sandip Deshpande @docsandypande]

@AiyyoShraddha Excellent performance Shraddha. A dr friend was so impressed that he wanted to know what specialist you were and which hospital are you working at 😊. Do DM me if you want content to portray a psychiatrist next time.

[Prof. Feynman @ProfFeynman]

Knowledge isn't free. You have to pay attention. 🧠

[Dr Sandip Deshpande @docsandypande]

@anandmahindra Tech-a-luru (Techaluru).