No solo hiciste llorar a mi versión adulta, también hiciste llorar a mi niña interior. Le hiciste revivir el abandono, volver a sentirse insuficiente. Pero eso fue mi culpa: un día te conté mi historia, te hablé de mis heridas, te di las armas para destruirme, y tu las utilizaste
@Gabbrielxzn@Favwontmiss Could just be disorganised attachment style, bit of avoidant and bit of anxious. I have had this, avoidant detached now I’m avoidant when decent people come along. I guess whoever said it’s learnt behaviour could be right ☹️
THEY ARE SHOCKED BY YOUR BEHAVIOUR- they will chase
AIR & EARTH smrv
Standing your ground has completely shifted the dynamic between you two. For the longest time, you were the one doing the heavy lifting, chasing and pleading for some sort of reciprocity.
@chipilonita Is she ‘work on her avoidance’, or just work on being more avoidant? The f’ing avoidant ruining lives everywhere! FFS! Just had similar happen, moved to another city, ‘aren’t you coming too?’
Water has no effect on plastic flowers. Sharing your emotions with emotionally unavailable people won't help you build an emotional connection with them. This is not a rejection of you, but rather a limitation of their own emotional capacity. Invest in people who can reciprocate.