@ZainabSana2622 That’s the part people conveniently overlook: Jesus puts responsibility for self-control on the person struggling with temptation, not on women’s clothing.
@ZainabSana2622 Jesus placed the responsibility for self control on the person with the problem, not on everyone else. Accountability starts with yourself.
my favorite part of the bible is when jesus, instead of telling women how to dress, tells men to gouge out their eyes and cut off their hands if they’re not capable of controlling themselves.
Yesterday, I was sharing plates of food in my street.
I met a woman and her two kids going to fetch water.
I gave them three plates.
She refused.
I thought she was joking.
She said,
“They don’t need food. Monetize it for us.”
I begged her to let the kids take it, after all, it’s Easter.
She said no.
“If they eat it, they’ll start craving what I can’t afford. I don’t want that.”
I told her I didn’t have cash on me.
She asked me to describe my house.
This morning, she came.
So I gave her ₦5,000.
She looked at me and said,
“Aunty, the food in that pack yesterday is worth more than ₦5,000 ooh.”
Then she started calculating.
“The malt alone is ₦1,200 × 3 = ₦3,600.
Add rice and meat… that’s like ₦20,000.”
She refused to collect the 5k.
I told her to wait for me outside my gate.
She has been waiting since.
Walahi she will sleep there eh..
I’ve been thinking about it all day, and all I feel is pure disgust. I’ve experienced different levels of disgust before, but nothing like this. There’s honestly no other word for it.
I’m deeply disgusted. Shame every one of them. Shame!
Almost every woman I know personally has been sexually assaulted at some point in their lives. You can't think it's okay to shut people up from speaking up about assault because some people lie. If you lie, you should face consequences - but that's not the conversation I'm having. Nor is it one I'm interested in having. How many of your male friends have they lied against? How many of your friends have actually assaulted women as vibes?? Women are terrified to go out. Women in their homes are not safe either. Ask your sisters. Ask your female friends and your girlfriends. Ask your wives. We're not all crazy. STOP RAPING WOMEN!!
It is absolutely exhausting and heartbreaking that we have to keep having this same conversation.
A woman’s body is not public property. There is no outfit, no location, and no situation that makes rape okay.
But beyond the anger we feel today, we need to talk about the lifelong trauma victims are forced to carry. Long after this stops trending, survivors are left battling PTSD, anxiety, and unseen scars. Many suffer in silence because they are terrified of a society that will ask them what they were wearing rather than holding the perpetrator accountable.
Every single survivor of sexual assault deserves absolute justice and a safe space to heal without judgment. The perpetrator belongs behind bars, but as a society, we also need to do better at protecting our women.
I am sending her, and every other survivor out there my support. I hope she gets all the medical and psychological support she needs right now.