There’s a certain type of privacy & alone time I require in order for me to feel like I’m still functioning and operating as an individual. I cannot do the codependency or enmeshment.
@suchnerve “Am I manipulative and/or demanding for directly and clearly communicating a request for mutual honesty and transparency?” “Am I being too sensitive for having my feelings hurt by that [objectively hurtful action]?” “Am I interpreting these facts and my experiences correctly?”
my bestie telling me “people are actually really bad at self reporting on their inner world. the odds that someone is successfully giving you an honest depiction of their feelings are low” because i said i struggle to believe peoples words now
You think you’re a good person until you fall in love or step into a relationship. That’s when all the layers come off. Love has a way of exposing every insecurity, flaw, weakness, and toxic pattern you’ve managed to hide, even from yourself. It shows you that you’re not as patient, kind, forgiving, or understanding as you believed. Love doesn’t just reveal who you are; it reveals who you still need to become.
Nah. 27-33 aren't your humbling years. They're your awakening years.
So many people misunderstand this phase of life.
That's when you start seeing things clearly. Everything suddenly dawns on you. You realize what you want, what doesn't matter, and how much time you've wasted.
Some people mistake that clarity for failure because they wish they had figured it out earlier.
But if you're determined, you can build more in those few years than you did in your entire early twenties.
Y'all want your partners to be obsessive and reactive over you because when you were younger no one gave a fuck about you the way they were supposed to so now as an adult you're looking for someone to fill in a void that is way beyond them
Oh and to risk embarrassing myself for human connection is no true risk at all, because nobody whose opinion really matters would ever think less of another person for choosing the vulnerability of putting themself out there.
I promise you, you actually don’t need to have sex with someone else to know how you really feel about someone. Listen to yourself, sex is not the only way to feel things. Your body is talking to you all the time if you listen.