A JOURNEY OF ALMOST THERE.
I began this path believing I knew where it led, my bag heavy with tools I thot would serve me well.
But evry sunrise brings fresh weight 2 my shoulders,& nights whisper questions I can't answer: Wasn't dis supposed 2 flow like the river back home?
@Queen_primis The irony is he didn't become predictable by chance, but because bargaining wasn't worth the stress. So before we ridicule his statement about his sandwich, ask yourself: who really took 8 years to wake up?
@Queen_primis He simply chose peace every day. Over time, in choosing peace, Oga became the stereotype- not the Madam waiting to exercise creativity, but the man who refused to make his lunchbox a battleground.
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Famous for their irresistible mix of passion, intrigue, and happy endings, these stories have become a cherished part of many lives.
Share your favourite memories with me.
@slimvnsn@Wizarab10 Cheers to Wale a smooth operator.
Besides, why do I feel a @SadeAduMusic smooth operator was playing in the background of their meet?
A classic.
@Jevrix9 That really puts things into perspective. We’re quick to judge what we don’t understand, but behind someone’s quiet choices could be a story of sacrifice and love we can’t even imagine. Respect to him, he knew what truly mattered.
I have tweeted this a few times, and I will tweet it again.
Firstly, we cannot say they didn’t build or buy a house for their fathers just because it wasn’t posted online. Secondly, if they didn’t, there must be a story behind it. Lastly, and most importantly, we men underestimate the importance of bonding, showing up, and emotionally supporting our kids. We act like these things aren’t as important as providing. Many men don’t even try at all. no bond, no emotional support, and just providing.
Do you know why many men are quick to disown their kids? It’s because there is no bond. We see it online all the time: a video of kids making mistakes, and men commenting, “If any of my kids try this, I will disown them.” That easy? The first thing that comes to your mind is to disown them? I changed so many diapers, soothed their sickness, and endured every tantrum, and you just want me to disown my kids? Many men see kids as people they only need to provide for.
If all you do is provide, while the mother does the showing up, emotional support, and bonding, then when the kids grow up and it’s time to give back, they will do the same. Not because they are bad kids, but because that’s what they learned. They will celebrate their mother more. They will talk to her more. Meanwhile, you as the father who only provided, will only receive financial gestures and gifts. You will be taken care of. They will like post their mom and rarely post you. Ask people who openly celebrate their dads if all he did was provide.
But if you never celebrated them when they were young, why should they celebrate you? You can’t expect them to miraculously create a bond you never built. If you’re lucky, your kids may unlearn that pattern and try to build a relationship with you, but it will be difficult, because they were raised with, “As a father, it’s my way or the highway.”
I work 12 to 16 hours sometimes, and my daughter has a game right after that. I get tired, really tired, but I still show up. And many times, when I get there, the smile that lights up her face when she spots me in the crowd is priceless. I love seeing that.
Do you think I always have the strength to go to parks, birthday parties, pools, and watch her play sports? Sometimes I want to rest, but I still try. And whenever I can’t make it, I communicate that with her. I don’t just fail to show up. I explain and give her reasons. So, my brothers, providing for your family and being emotionally present aren’t mutually exclusive. Try. Otherwise, when you are down, your kids won’t be beside you on your deathbed, but they will make sure you d*e comfortably.
DID YOU KNOW??
The difference between reading financial advice from a "Billionaire Outlier" versus a "Path-Peer" (someone who walked your exact economic path) isn't just about the numbers, it’s about a psychological phenomenon called Survivorship Bias and the "invisible" role of Systemic Infrastructure, even to those who don't acknowledge it.
1. The "Rich-System" Blind Spot:
When you read a book by someone who grew up in a wealthy background or a high-capital system (like the U.S.), their advice often assumes the existence of "Economic Safety Nets" that they might not even realize they have.
You’ve likely heard the story of a billionaire starting with a "small" $50,000 loan from their parents. Recall Mr Eazi, let's not even talk about Mr Otedola. For someone in a different system, $50,000 isn't a "loan", it’s mony that they may never touch in their lives, Okash refuses to even give them 20, 000 in naira. 😂😂
People from wealthy backgrounds can afford to take "all-or-nothing" risks. If their first three businesses fail, they still have a home and a network. Their advice to "burn the ships" is dangerous for someone whose failure results in actual homelessness. You here things like 'Go all in' 'Have no second plan' 'there is no plan B'. Be warned! A lot of those saying that have a psychological plan B, family and solid assets.
2. The "Same Path" Advantage:
Reading someone who lived your "same life" is often more effective because they account for things like willpower exhaustion and you can actually empathise with their circumstances - as they are mirrored in yours.
Financial experts from wealthy backgrounds often say, "Just stop buying unnecessary stuff." They don't understand that for someone in a high-stress, low-income system, that 500 naira suya you buy once a week, is often the only "win" of their week, something to loom forward to even.
A "Path-Peer" author understands the specific taxes, local banking corruption, or cultural obligations (like "black tax" or family support) that a Western billionaire would call "bad math." They provide behavioral workarounds that actually stick because they are physically possible in your specific reality.
3. The "System" Paradox:
Another fact is that the rules of money change depending on the Economic System you live in.
Capitalist Authors focus on leverage and debt. They tell you to take out loans to buy assets because they live in systems with stable interest rates and strong legal protections.
Developing System Authors focus on liquidity and physical assets. In systems where currency devalues rapidly or banks are unstable, "leverage" is a suicide mission. Go and read about what almost destroyed Mr Otedola.
Advice from someone who survived a 50% inflation spike is 100x more valuable to you than advice from a Wall Street trader who has only ever known 2% inflation. You could say that the man I just mentioned, survived a similar incident, and I would ask you, how? 🌚
4. Your best bet for Success?
Behavioral economists suggest a Hybrid Approach;
At least 80% of your reading should be from people who lived your life. This gives you a functional map of the obstacles you will actually hit.
While around 20% of your reading should be from the (Other System) wealthy. This gives you mental expansion. It prevents you from thinking "too small" and introduces you to tools (like compounding or equity) that your local system might not emphasize. Like a lot of greats have said, and even @UnkleAyo
, you can't upgrade if you can't atleast see the vision you want to upgrade into.
Check the "Acknowledgements" page before you buy a finance book, skip to the back. If the author thanks their "private school mentors" or "trust fund managers," realize their advice is for polishing wealth, not creating it from zero. And if they attribute all and all to God? Run oo 😅
Hopefully you've learnt something new today
Daalu 👍🏾 😅
The Medic Who Writes™🌚