This past weekend was my second time in Malaysia, and again I came away feeling impressed with how the Malaysian Chinese uphold and guard their culture with pride.
It is a week away from Chinese New Year. Red and gold Chinese decorations and upbeat Chinese music abound in Kuala Lumpur, not just in Chinatown but all over malls and Chinese restaurants as well. The female staff in my favorite durian shop all wear red qipao uniforms. Billboard and radio ads further contribute to the festive feeling of CNY.
Contrast this to Taiwan. It seems to be going through another normal week. The result of de-sinicization here is stark. Many Taiwanese locals I personally know, they’d happily attend k-pop & Coldplay shows, glaze F1 drivers, or make a gajillion trips to Japan each year, but celebrating their own culture feels like pulling teeth.
I respect the Malaysian Chinese folks. They’re not even a majority in KL (40%) or Malaysia (22%), and the vast majority (>90%) immigrated to the country over 100 years ago. They don’t worship Anglos like Hong Kongers or Singaporeans even though all of them were subjected to British colonization. They don’t surrender their root culture nor behave obsequiously to please foreign masters like many Chinese do in America and Europe (or even the ones that live in the Sinosphere).
Every Chinese person can learn a lot from them.
Men by default are entitled to personal interests, while women have functions. Historically, men were allowed to explore ideas, develop skills of their own volition & be passionate about anything they choose. Women, by contrast, were expected to be useful, relational, & available
“there’s a safety in seeing a woman being removed from the conversation. So you’re watching something happen between two men, and there is no fear of violence”
This is misogyny. Erasing women doesn’t equal safety, it just reinforces the idea that women are the problem. And are gay men somehow incapable of violence now, or are we pretending men stop being dangerous when women aren’t present too?
your partner actually liking you as a friend is important. romantic love is not enough. because romance shows you how someone feels about you, but friendship shows you how they treat you when they are not trying to impress you. loving someone is easy when everything is heightened. liking them is what makes the ordinary days bearable.
most people do not realise this, but the version of your partner you meet in friendship is the one you end up living with.
the softness, the humour, the small acts of consideration, the way they speak when nothing big is happening, that is the real relationship. romance can win you over, but friendship is what prevents both of you from becoming strangers while still sharing a life.
and the older you get, the clearer it becomes that love is not the glue. compatibility in the boring moments is. that is the part no one warns you about: the relationship lasts only if you can stand each other when nothing romantic is happening at all.
🚨 BREAKING: Malaysia’s top women’s doubles pair, Pearly Tan and M. Thinaah, have won the Kumamoto Masters final 22-20, 21-19 against Japan's world No. 7 duo Rin Iwanaga–Kie Nakanishi.
The world No. 2 pair secured their third title of the year, after the Thailand Open and Arctic Open, and their seventh final overall in 2025.
when men are better at something = proof that males are superior to women
when women are better at something =
segala mak bapak conspiracy theory pseudoscience kacip. oh okay.
@ddiddilingorm Dik Ayla ka~ bro no joke tho, I didn’t know it’s so viral til my colleagues randomly referenced it today in the office. not even jkrs nor gl fans. i’d been hearing random “when i look at you” from them too