I dont date men without fathers, and I don’t date men with kids. I don’t date men in addiction. I don’t date men that hate women. I don’t date ugly men. And I don’t date men that can’t lead better than me. Thinking my singleness is ever a man’s decision is where you fcked up.
Notice how "girls mature faster" is never stated as a reason to why girls should be given more positions of power and authority? It only works to hold girls to greater accountability than boys and to justify men's attraction to them.
Enter a female hostel and go sit on one of the public toilets first before confidently announcing that women can’t get infections from toilets. 😂
Every time this conversation comes up, a lot of male HCPs rush to say, “There’s no such thing as a toilet infection” or “You can’t get a UTI from a toilet seat.”
The problem is that many of you hear women describing a real experience and immediately start looking for ways to dismiss it instead of trying to understand what they’re actually saying.
Women are not claiming that every toilet seat is a magical infection portal. What we’re saying is that poorly maintained public toilets can be unhygienic, can expose people to bacteria and other microorganisms, and can create conditions that increase the risk of infections (which happens often btw). Women’s anatomy also makes us more vulnerable to UTIs than men.
The bigger issue is the pattern. Women say, “This is what happened to my body,” and instead of listening, many (read male) HCPs immediately reach for a textbook to explain why the woman couldn’t possibly be right.
We’ve seen this happen repeatedly across women’s health. For years, women complained about symptoms that weren’t being taken seriously. Women with conditions like PCOS spent years describing their experiences before the medical community fully appreciated many of the metabolic aspects of the condition. Our experience with pain management is another example.
Healthcare works best when clinicians combine scientific evidence with patient experiences. The textbook matters. Research matters. But listening to patients matters too.
Women live in these bodies every day. Maybe stop assuming we’re confused every time we tell you what we’re experiencing.
We have spent years being told it is “just a period problem” while our skin, our weight, our mood, and our energy were all falling apart. Today, the medical world finally admitted you were right.
PCOS is now PMOS.