Picking a partner to form a family with is arguably the most important choice of your life and your children’s life. I feel like people are making that decision too lightly out here.
I wish you rest today. I wish you deep knowing that all this trauma is not normal and you are enough. You can rest. You should resist anything that doesn’t center your divinity as a human being. You are worthy of care.
I love seeing couples who are actual friends to each other. Not a relationship based solely on duty and societal expectations, but one based on mutual understanding, laughter, shared experiences, shared interests and more. I genuinely think these are the happiest relationships.
When you set a new boundary to honor yourself including your mental health, some will act confused, some will get angry, and some will act like you didn’t say what you said.
Keep the boundary. Your peace is worth it.