@ChiefVizier @drivingmemadi A therapist once told me “your parents didn’t wake up and think of how to fuck you up and hurt you... they did they best they could AND their best was terribly lacking and both of those things can be true” - helped me forgive without excusing
western cultures believe we must be alive for a purpose. to work, to make money. some indigenous cultures believe we're alive just as nature is alive: to be here, to be beautiful & strange. we don't need to achieve anything to be valid in our humanness.