@GoddessAddison Ihr letzter "Befehl" bei der Verabschiedung war, ihr Bescheid zu geben, wenn ich gut nach Hause gekommen bin. Wenige Tage später durfte ich zur zweiten Session kommen. 10/10
@GoddessAddison Als die 1 1/2 Stunden vorbei waren, hätte ich mir gewünscht, es ginge mindestens noch einmal so lange weiter. Nach der Dusche empfing sie mich mit einem Lächeln und einem Lob. Ich hatte auch ein Lächeln im Gesicht und fühlte mich richtig gut. 9/x
@GoddessAddison Ich kam zu früh an, blieb noch eine Weile im Auto und nutzte diese Zeit dafür, recht nervös zu sein. Das legte sich bald, denn im Vorgespräch war sie sehr sympathisch, ruhig, und ihre Art hat mir gleich das Gefühl gegeben, dass ich hier richtig bin. 3/x
📌 If you want to pre-negotiate a dynamic so that both parties get exactly what they want - that is roleplay, not D/s.
I completely understand the desire to have your needs met and your fantasies fulfilled. Good for you.
But stop calling it power exchange.
Because real power does not negotiate itself into existence.
It exists on its own terms and attracts people who genuinely align with it. It does not exist to provide you with customized pleasure. It allows you to experience something real instead of consuming a carefully negotiated fantasy built around your desires.
Real power exchange is the exact opposite of roleplay.
@LadySuzanneOnly@0x_olivia_0x Absolutely. In fact, my first Domme sometimes used commands and a tone of voice as if She were talking to one of Her dogs - and for a good reason. It's efficient and effective.
@0x_olivia_0x Thank You for pointing this out. Clarity, consistency and strictness are not the same as being mean. we can serve You Ladies best when we are given clear instructions and feedback. subs appreciate "simple and direct" words.
one thing I did when I first started in this world was overthink how to say things way too much.
there is no need to sound theatrical, perform dominance, or turn every instruction into a scene.
simple and direct works better:
- come here, boy.
- do it now.
- fix your attitude.
- that wasn't good enough.
- try again.
- earn it.
dominant language is not about sounding like a mean bitch all the time.
most of the time, it's about being clear enough that your sub knows exactly where he stands.
@dominatrixem If you have truly internalized and value Her precious authority, then you don't need a reminder. you are grateful for praise, reply, and rewards, but you don’t need them in order to obey Her.
A Domme doesn’t need a sub who behaves only when she’s watching.
She needs one whose standards survive her absence.
Anyone can obey with attention on them.
The real test is what you do when there is:
no praise
no reply
no reminder
no immediate reward
Do you still complete the task?
Do you still respect the rule?
Do you still tribute on time?
Do you still hold your place without creating pressure?
A weak man needs supervision to stay disciplined.
A real sub carries the standard even when she is silent.
Because submission is not performance.
It is what remains when nobody is watching.